Loving again.
I once loved someone, a very long time ago(let's call her M). But then she left me. I have never loved anyone the way I loved her. I have played around with the idea of moving on, but mostly by dating others, and it was never truly serious from my end. I have moved to a different city, made new friends, loved someone else but didn't really try to admit it or make an effort to be with them.
I have started liking someone else. A very close friend. I am thinking of telling her how I feel. But a voice inside my head keeps telling me that I would never really love anyone the way I loved M, and vice versa. Is it a good idea to admit my feelings to my friend if deep down I'm convinced that M is the person I'm meant to be with? This idea that M is The One for me seems ancient and I'm making an effort to move on.
@cauchyimpersonator
I think certain relationship especially if feelings were strong we romanticize the relationship..... IF as you say years have passed M may not even be the same..... we grow and change over time ...
a big reason relationships can fail as we may not grow in same direction or such when we HOLD a memory of a great love it is stuck in that moment and perfect. At one point in my life I too bought in to idea of "the one " but in my life see that love comes again and is hard to compare to other "love" it would be like comparing two very different things...... at very different points of time in our lives....
if you have feelings tell people instead of being only having a memory of love.
you can never love two people the same, only different. And you can never love more or less, only in special and distinctive ways. Honour your feelings for M and honour your feelings for you new friend. Life is too short to compare what we could love so deeply and with what we have loved and have passed. Just honour it.
