Is this being a controlling partner or does it show that i care?
My Partner ( 28yo female) hadnt been in contact with this “friend” ( 40Yo female) in around 6 months , and just today they had arranged to go out with eachother , i had gave my opinion on this “friend” and it made my partner quite upset in which she canceled her plans , there is alot of reason behind why i thought i would let my partner know what i think about this “friend” , the “friend” in question takes a lot of drugs ( mainly tablets in which one time she tried to give my partner some who dosnt take them) , she dosnt come across as a mature person shes 40 years old and post pictures of herself half naked on her socials and writes crazy captions at 4/5am (which suggests she is drunk and on drugs) and once or twice she actually tried to tell my partner that she fancied her , she said that a medium had told her that she would meet this young blonde girl and be intimate with her ( telling her without telling her lol ) , the “friend” in question cant be trusted and comes across as a bad lier , my partner got upset she didnt go out i still had told her to go because i didnt want her not to go , does this come across as me conrolling my partner or does it show that i care about her?
if you see this S.C i love you and only want whats best for you i always have and always will … because i care
@convivialSail864 Maybe you’re intentions aren’t what’s revenant here. Your gf might have just wanted a night out away from you or maybe she doesn’t want her bf to be her parent. But she did what you wanted, she didn’t go. And before you protest and say, “but, but, but I said she could go,” it probably didn’t mater after the lecture you gave her.
@convivialSail864
It can be seen both ways.
When a person wants to help and stop a person from hanging around a bad influence it is always taken out of context.
Some resort to suggesting the person has not done anything ....( so far) ....except offer drugs/ or such and not to worry if your GF continues to resist or say no. You are concerned that how many times hanging out with a immature drug addict with a crush on her until something does go off the rails.
You wrote a "I was only trying to help line" and that does not mean you did anything wrong here. I think of parents/ friends / partners who try to protect a someone from bad influences the idea of not to worry UNTIL or After the Fact and something happens ....it does not sound controlling or overboard then.
There are many who ask themselves why did they not say something BEFORE... you just are one that said something before. I would ALWAYS want to be a person to warn someone before then wonder if i could have made a difference before something happened.
