I need someone to talk to
My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me last night, although he said it was an in progress thing bc he had to talk to more people and that he still loves me, he feels like he had no other choice bc for his mental sake… I put so much stress on him and he is stressing enough, he feels a lack of emotional connection and feels like he has to dumb things down and that I’m easily manipulated, weak minded and naive. He doesn’t want to break up and it shows and ik he is going through a lot of mental stress. This isn’t the first time though. We’ve broke up before in highschool and it was similar situation with him going through family problems and stress. I also can’t blame him tho, he’s been waiting for me to change a few times, and I fell short of in the change too quickly and too hard I’d just fall short and I realized that. We had a conversation which resulted in us almost breaking up but we didn’t until last night, earlier in the day I asked to talk to him with something in frustrated with and I’m not ok, I told him I was failing a class not to be mad at me as I am going to work it out myself and not give me advice. When we called I told him that on top of my procrastination and etc I put myself into a seemingly never ending cycle and didn’t do the work. I said I definitely could’ve done more and yet I didn’t. I know he would’ve taken it as a problem in our relationship but as my partner I thought he deserved to know what’s going on with me… there’s more but I can’t type rn
@sincerePrune5057
I'm really sorry to hear what you’re going through. It sounds incredibly tough and it’s clear you care deeply about him and your relationship.
From what you’ve shared, it seems like there’s a lot of complexity in both of your emotions. It’s understandable that he feels overwhelmed, especially with his own mental stress and the challenges he’s facing. You mentioned feeling like you’ve put pressure on him and that you’ve struggled to change as you both hoped. That can be a heavy weight to carry.
It sounds like you were trying to communicate your struggles with school, wanting to be honest without adding to his stress. I can see how hard that must have been for you. It’s clear you value transparency and want to share your challenges, even if it’s difficult.
I hope you’re taking care of yourself during this time. Breakups are never easy, especially when there’s still love involved. And remember, it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions right now.
