I can't be the only one
My bf thinks that in a submissive and dominate roles thar he's In charge of everything right down to what my boundaries are. I've explained to him that not the case and it leads to nothing but fights and arguments.
I've explained that he is supposed to uphold and be clear abou my boundaries not try ans break them.he dose not understand that thr submissive IA actually the one in control and it's honestly sending me.
@ShadowMyCat I'm sorry to hear that the misunderstandings between you and your partner's sub/dom roles are causing arguments within your relationship. Boundaries should definitely be set clear upfront about the roles each partner will take on. I think often times people believe the dominant is in control because they do the dominating. But they fail to see that the dom can only do what the sub has allowed. I believe in stead of the power trip of who's in contro over who in this relationship dynamic, it should just be accepted that it's a balance of give and take. There can't be one without the other, after all. :) Wishing communication, love, understanding, negotiation/compromise in your relationship moving forward.