How to get over insecurity
My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years now. I just noticed he follows a bunch of *** models that show little to nothing. I decided to have a serious conversation about this because i felt really insecure. He said he followed them because it’s the same reason people watch porn and he forgot he even followed them because it had been forever ago. He also mentioned he had them muted from seeing their posts and stories. I asked him to show me and he wasn’t lying, they were muted. My thing is I still don’t understand why he wouldn’t just unfollow them if they were muted anyways. He kept saying it never crossed his mind and forgot he still followed. I don’t find this is a reason to break up so I’d like to get over this. He said he would unfollow them and he did. But These girls looked nothing like me and I still feel very insecure it’s hard to forget. I now feel like he has a certain image for women and it’s not how my body looks at all. Someone please help me get over this or how I can stop feeling insecure
Guys perspective: yes, he probably likes that kind of body, But the fact that he unfollowed Rather than saying “ I don’t see what the big deal is, That’s your problem Not mine” Means that he likes you very much.
if you’re asking for his exclusive attention, make sure you are doing the same for him; pictures and private chats and flirting with guys. If my girlfriend was looking at pictures of other guys, I wouldn’t be worried. If she was chatting privately With a guy, Then I would be worried. Flirting, much worse. Words & flirting lead to real things, pictures not really.
You Probably have a different and just as valid of a perspective, But that’s a guys perspective.
He doesn’t want to lose you and he does value you, And that’s why he unfollowed them.
ps. Guys don’t leave a girlfriend due to their body, they leave when she is more and more in a bad mood, And him being there no longer makes her happy. Rather than focusing on changing your body, try to remember what your mood was like For the first couple months that you met him and started dating, And focus on changing your mood back to where it was. If you used to light up and be happy to see him Whenever you saw him, Go back to that, And focus on keeping that rather than your body. Try really letting your eyes light up Every time you see him for the next 2 months and watch him do things that will make you feel very secure.
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I wouldn't judge someone based on all the food pics or influencers *** has. So I would hope no one judges me on the lady profiles I follow. It really means nothing, and in my opinion it's healthy for a man to see certain stuff. Blame *** for making everything public, it's really a dumb idea to pick on something that would be a different thing all together if it were private. (let me rephrase, ***'s methods are dumb not you.)
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