How do you handle a situation where your energy is so drained because of the environment and you display sadness, your sadness is used against you?
Hi,
I would like to know some ideas on how to cope with a situation where you've been patiently enduring a toxic environment for a long time, but eventually, you can't take it anymore, and you show your sadness and leave to recharge. Then suddenly, you're condemned with statements like, "You're a Christian; you should have compassion."
Any thoughts on this?
@futureDeveloper
Hello futrueDeveloper;
I am sorry you are having to deal with such matters. The dynamics of relations with friends, family and what not can be hard.
People can say things that they truly don't mean they are hurting. We all have said things we are sorry for saying. But then it is easy to say "you are to forgive." When you have been hurt again and again.
It is not easy, you have every right to feel as you do. It is ok to feel that way right now.
Why do you think, they feel you don't have compassion?
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@Barltik2065 I am actually okay I just need an idea on other ways how to cope with it, thanks btw.
@futureDeveloper
Glad to hear you are okay.
You are most welcome!
"... ways to cope with it."
Each person's pains and feelings are unique. You are the expert of you.
For me, I explore what has work in the past and work off that. So What has worked in the past?
@Barltik2065 Jesus Christ is my answer, I am proud to be a Christian
@futureDeveloper
Glad to hear :)
As a Christian (to me) these are principal portions:
Proverbs 3 Verses 5 to 6 (NIV)
Ephesians 6 verses 10 to 18 (NIV)
Then close with Love. NIV New Testament, Love is mentioned over 550 times.
If you want more I would recommend talking with one of our trained Listeners They are a great asset to assist with seeing through all the dust
@futureDeveloper Last weekend I felt so drained, so depressed, felt like I was giving too everyone else . so I turned my phone off completely and I felt like a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders. I felt as if I could breathe again
@chipandale33 Yes that is totally a relief, that is why I leave the conversation to conserve my energy but somehow some people would say nasty things when you are just simply guarding your time and energy.
@futureDeveloper yeah, once I turned my phone back on the first message I got was,you're the most uncaring, confusing person. it's like people can't be appreciate or be happy if you do something good for yourself.
@futureDeveloper
Good question. People who use the word 'should' are just reflecting what they think THEY should be doing, unconsciously or not.
The pressures, fears and doubts they have for themselves is so extreme that it's roiling out from them and onto you, on some level.
Understanding this is freeing because it allows us to forgive that person and therefore actually embody religious teachings, even if ironically.
@communicativePond1728 Thank you for your output, I learned 1 thing, thank you!
You should also have boundaries and be able to leave a situation like that. Sometimes you have to cut the cord. Take deep breaths.