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How did it happen?

1in8billion July 31st

I’m trying to understand how I fell so fast and so hard for someone I met last year. I was married for 20 some years and have been separated for about 6 now. I’ve dated on/off during that time. Last year I met someone and I somehow got caught up in a deep attraction to her. Not just appearance but also for who she is. None of the other girls I dated before her have had such a strong effect on me like she does.

I have never felt this way about someone before and I cannot get her out of my thoughts. I dream and long to be in a LTR with her but that isn’t what she wants and feels about me. I am trying to let her go emotionally but it’s very hard for me to do. I know it’s the right thing to do but my heart tells me to keep holding on.

You would think that at my age I should know better and be an adult about all this. What is going on and how do I carry on with my life with this hovering above me?

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toughTiger6481 August 1st

@1in8billion

It can happen regardless of your age/ experience we cannot help when the person just clicks on all cylinders.  When you say it is not what she wants... what is she looking for. 

It is hard to let go of a deep emotional connection. it will be with you always the one that got away just cherish the memory and move on if there is no chance... distance may be needed as if still in contact you might look for any sliver of hope in everything.