How can life/fate be so cruel?
I just want to get this thought out there….
I met someone earlier this year. To me everything was meant to be. What drew us together was a list of unique coincidences and parallels that to me suggested we were meant to meet. We have both become very comfortable with each other and being with her gives me a sense of fulfillment unlike anyone else that I’ve been with (I was married for 20 plus years and dated a few ladies in between). Although I don’t really know the true definition of what love is or what it supposed to feel like, I believe that is what is happening to me with her.
The twist is that she isn’t sure about a true relationship with me. She has no long term plans and not too sure about being more serious or committed as I am (although she has comitted to being exclusive with me).
I am so confused and frustrated that we were brought together by fate only to have this roadblock to what could be a beautiful and wonderful relationship. I’m so down annd frustrated about this and struggle with why fate is taunting me by dangling this carrot in front of me.
@1in8billion
Thank you for sharing your frustrations. I am also in the same situation but different side. It must be challenging to navigate this uncertain future when she is being vague about her commitment. Have you talked to her about why she feels unsure? It seems like you care about her a lot, but the amount of love you've given isn't being reciprocated to how much you deserve.
We’ve talked about it a bit and she’s not 100% sure what it is. She says I’m giving her all the things she never got from her previous marriage and feels safe and comfortable with me.
She believes in butterflies in her stomach when it comes to meeting that “one”. She says she doesn’t have them with me but I keep telling her that is harder to come across them as we get older. She lived a married life of 20 some years and in those years her experiences and hurt have filtered out a lot of those buttwerdlt feelings. With age, experience and maturity we all learn to be more cautious and discerning with who, whatt we are looking for. There is no more throwing caution to the wind so to speak. It’s this that I believe she is r finding what she wants. Plus we’re both divorced, me 6 years, her only 2, so dating after 20 years is still fresh for her.
@1in8billionthanks for sharing
