Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Heartache.

KindPear August 4th, 2023

I don't know if this goes here, since we aren't in a relationship. But I just wanted to tell somebody that I still love him.


I can't tell anyone cause it's been too long and its stupid and I shouldn't feel like this. But I do.


I love him and I always punish myself for feeling that way but just this once I need to actually say it honestly and just sit with it.


If anyone has any suggestions on how to get over someone you've loved on and off for a very long time, someone who is your friend but doesn't like you that way.


I've been in so much pain.

1
hopefulPond6108 August 4th, 2023

@KindPear Hi. Sorry you’re struggling with this. Here is my suggestion, but it may not be easy.

keep loving this person, but release yourself from the prison of wanting them to be in a relationship with you

how do you do that? First: Treasure the fact that you have a friend you care deeply about. Second: Don’t keep your emotional eggs in one basket. Look for another person to love who wants to be in a relationship with you.

The pain is coming from how you are relating to the situation, not from the situation itself.