He Doesn't text me,
I feel like he's not making any efforts, he won't text me if I don't. He never makes plans on his own and only says yes to the ones I make. But he's very nice except for a few things, like the ones I mentioned before. He also went out on a day trip with friends (girls),,didn't include me in his plan and just randomly told me a day before although they were planning for 3 days. I just want to know if all these are actual red flags or I am just overthinking
@limegreenOcean3115
The only responding if you text first or expecting you to make all the plans etc IMO can be a common item that one person does not step up and make an effort.
the trip he took i think is something you could talk about with him as he had time to tell you and be more upfront. why did he decide to say something only last minute... that waiting is a red flag.
It's a typical red flag my dear
And you can't keep making excuses for him. If a man loves or care about he will make out time for you. It he wasn't giving you attention and giving others male attention it would have been different but the fact that he does that with females. And know that you are absolutely amazing wake up and stans for yourself don't allow anyone waste your time
Hey, let’s be real, if you weren’t the one initiating, would this relationship even exist? You’re not asking for too much, you’re just asking for the bare minimum: effort, inclusion, consideration. And if he wanted to, he would. NO ONE is too busy for someone they genuinely care about. So ask yourself, are you happy with this? Or are you just holding on because he’s 'nice'? Being nice isn’t enough to build a real relationship, consistent effort is.
@limegreenOcean3115 This is definitely a delicate situation. It seems like he hasn’t put in enough effort—or even worse, he might not have been truly interested in the relationship from the start. You’ll need to weigh the pros and cons of continuing to try and make it work. Since you know him personally, you’re in the best position to gauge his feelings. Perhaps he just needs more time to open up, or perhaps, as I suspect, he was never genuinely invested. Trust your instincts and carefully consider whether it’s worth continuing or if it’s time to move on. Wishing you all the best, dear! 💕