Getting impatient with myself
My ex and I dated all through high school and college. Long distance. We met online and we’d been obsessed with each other ever since. But after 10 years, I broke up with him. I could go into why, but I’ve accepted that it was the right thing to do. But that doesn’t make the pain go away. All the hurt, anger, and sadness keeps reappearing. And of course it’s going to take more than a week to get over this break up of my first and only relationship. But it’s frustrating. I was happy in the relationship until I wasn’t. He wasn’t willing to take the steps necessary to change that. So it’s over. And now I just have to wait for my emotions to catch up with the logic of the situation. I know I should be kinder to myself, but frankly I feel like I’ve spent more than enough time thinking about him and would like to continue the rest of my life now. But forcing the issue just makes it worse. I even tried joining a dating app before deleting it because I don’t actually want to go on dates right now. I don’t know what kind of feedback I’m looking for. I’m just sick of going to bed sad every night.
@banbelion,
you are processing and grieving.
Which is totally normal and takes as long as it takes.
And no, running into another relationship until you are ready is not the solution.
Enjoy being alone.
@banbelion
Hello,
Its completely normal to feel what u are feeling. It was such a long relationship so obviously These emotions will appear. I felt the same When My 5 yrs lf relationship Got over and it took me over 3 yrs to get back to normal. So its completely fine. Try to vent out these emotions. Crying helps too. Accept your emotions.
You are out of the relationship as you felt its right. So its ok. Give time to yourself. Self Care, Involved with something.. hobbies maybe.😊
If you wanna talk and vent you can ping me.