Failed situationship
I met this girl online and found out she was from the same university I attend and decided to talk about her everyday. She was so nice to me and I think she was even love bombing me and I got attached to her and become delusional thinking she likes me bc I started to grow romantic feelings for her. Then I confessed and she said she didn’t like me and she didn’t even consider me as a friend. And I genuinely thought we were friends. I had no friend ever and I was trying to have one and it didn’t work. Maybe I rushed things bc we knew each other for weeks. 2 years passed and I found out I had to share one class with her and it triggers me so bad. She has cool friends and it triggers me, bc she didn’t want me. Maybe I become too needy bc i asked her to hang out everyday but isn’t it how people become friends? I didn’t only want to talk to her online and she would always text me at the end of the day and hang out with her friends in daytime. Like was it my fault? Or hers? I met her once in university we talked like 10 minutes in break in uni then we never got to talk in real life. This is why I don’t wanna try to have friends bc everyone already has friends and don’t wanna spend time with me instead they want to spend time with their old friends ): Rn the time I wrote this I missed the class we share together bc I didn’t wanna see her…
@anonyHuman933
People sometimes have diverse friends maybe she felt you did not fit into her friend circle so when you confessed she shut you down hard because of HER not you. Someone does not spend time talking with a person online or thru text if they do not consider them a friend.
What do you think a friendship involves? a relationship?
If things do not work out why hide or avoid you did nothing wrong. You had a online conversation and thought it was going one way... she said she did not feel same. OK , so what, she passed. on your friendship or relationship ....... You need move on and to see yourself as worthy / interesting with things to offer in a friendship ...and those who do not see it or give you a chance it is their loss not yours.
Hold your self high go into class never even look her way it is in the past ... You are letting self doubt and what you imagine she thinks or would say. You seem to be having conversations with yourself about how other people think about you... it must be exhausting like playing a game of tennis by trying to outrun ball and play both sides.
maybe work on you first and NOT assume all dislike you or are cooler/ interesting compared to you etc.
i feel bad bc I was desperate to her she knows things about me I regret telling her. I just want her to see me with cool people too bc now she thinks I’m desperate miserable loser who has no friends. I told her I have no friends.
@anonyHuman933
you opened yourself up to her and that can be scary. if she was to share that or tell your secrets she would have. Maybe she did like you but her act around "cool" people is not in line with what hse shared with you. maybe she is not sure if she is the person she was with you OR the person she pretends to be with the cool crowd.
Almost everyone plays that game and do not mix friend groups because that group does not know the side she might share with you.
if it bothers you do not tell others you have NO friends, it makes you seem desperate .... and clingy which scares others off.
What should I do now? I still have to see her every week I can’t miss my classes. I feel like she hates me bc when she said she didn’t want to talk to me anymore I got mad and said F off to her and blocked her
@anonyHuman933
Just go on to class her presence should be irrelevant to you. there will be more times when a person and you will not click or get along that never means you have to make your life smaller to avoid her.
act as if she is invisible.
