Blocked by the guy I’m seeing

Thanks for the insights! Overall it was chaotic. Most of the time we ended up not meeting because he promised then never happened. He kept on saying he’s busy and need space. And yes embarrassed too because he’s short of cash and can’t pay for a proper date (he did once though). I think his ego was heavily crushed and I understand.

im not sure if i was too pushy - i was desperate to meet him because im only there for a week plus. So the more he pull away the more desperate i became and he doesnt like that. I guess both of us are frustrated that this is bad timing.

I talked to a few people but you are the first one who raise the issue of embarrassment. That probably explained why he just shut off unannounced- he is too embarrassed to even inform me perhaps? Our last conversation before I left, up till the moment i arrive back home - nothing abnormal nor argumentative. So i was caught surprised when he blocked me.

im still contemplating- i have an email drafted wanting to send to him. Not to blame him but is an invitation for a final conversation. I will respect his decision if he wants to go separate way but at least an honest conversation is more respectful imo. Still not sure if i should send it out…

Also just to add… it felt very comfortable actually. There was no awkwardness and things that he has been telling me are real eg where he stays, his workplace, his neighbours etc so he isn’t a “scam”. When we first met it just felt like we have known each other for very long and we just catch up!

too bad it was a really bad timing so we were both frustrated. I mean i did reflected and think it’s best we go separate ways or just stay friends. Mainly because i noticed disparity in our life values, preferred lifestyle and priorities in life. I guess he’s on the same page just that the way he showed his decision was very abrupt and not in the most emphatic way (ie blocking).