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Am I incapable of being in a relationship?

faithfulCoconut848 October 22nd, 2023

You know spiritual people sometimes say to those struggling that they’re already in a relationship. A relationship with the sun, moon, the earth etc. I think that’s a very profound thing to remind yourself of. That we are ultimately of nature, we are nature. However when it comes to finding a human partner then things become quite complicated indeed. There is an unspoken, unseen set of social rules that nobody tells you about but everyone assumes you know. It was like everyone was invited to some secret society to learn these things but you where left out somehow. It’s strange. Maybe it was once a part of our genetics once upon a time but now it seems to be slowly evolving out.


Whatever the case, I find relationships to be quite fascinating. They really prove to shed a light on what it means to be human in the most direct way. You know there’s so many animals that only get together during mating season. There’s no way any semblance of a relationship can be formed between them. Not in the way human relationships are. Me personally I’ve never actually been in a relationship. I ultimately have no clue what I’m talking about. I don’t know how relationships work. I do know that you have to fulfill a certain amount of criteria in order to be able interact with others. And that criteria changes depending on who you’re wanting to talk with.


Gee I feel like an alien. I just want to find out what I’m missing here.

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patientSky1754 October 23rd, 2023

@faithfulCoconut848

The analogy of humans being in a relationship with the natural world is a beautiful way to connect with the environment and to remind ourselves of our interconnectedness with the Earth. The unwritten social rules you mentioned can indeed be baffling and challenging. They often stem from societal norms, cultural backgrounds, and individual experiences. You're right that these rules seem to evolve over time, which can make navigating relationships quite complex. Human relationships are incredibly diverse. There's no one-size-fits-all approach, and people have different expectations, desires, and boundaries when it comes to connecting with others. It's a learning process for everyone, and there's no definitive manual. People often learn as they go and through their experiences. You mentioned never having been in a relationship, but that doesn't mean you're missing out. Your journey is unique, and you have the opportunity to explore and discover what works for you at your own pace. Sometimes, people find connections when they least expect it, and it can be a beautiful journey of self-discovery