Ache to be desired

I want to be desired, and thought of. I have this debilitating ache to be somebody to someone. It is getting more and more intense to be thought of as beautiful, and amazing, and smart, and funny by someone. I’m pursuing that affection and adoration and sense of belonging in the most risky and unhealthy ways, but I truly feel at a loss because if I don’t pursue it the risky way, it never reaches me and I’m left alone. 

Anyone else feel the overwhelming ache and need to be pursued, and wanted, and desired? And how did you move past it?