1st time parent & partner struggles
Hello, I just need to vent really. I'm pregnant and hoping to be a 1st time mom. I only recently found out and told him asap because I don't want to leave him in the dark about anything. We weren't planning it, so his reaction is a little bit understandable, but he has since shut down emotionally and is keeping me at an emotional arms length. I'm just scared it's gonna tear us apart. And since I have pcos it's already really hard for me to even get pregnant, so I can't just not try to see where this takes me. I'm sad and scared and feeling a lot of things, and I just needed to get that off my chest.
@Nat20dicegoblin Thank you for reaching out and sharing your feelings. It's completely understandable to have a range of emotions when facing unexpected news, especially when it comes to a significant life event like becoming a first-time mom. It's important to acknowledge and express your concerns during this vulnerable time.
It's natural to feel scared and apprehensive about the potential impact this situation may have on your relationship. It can be challenging when one partner shuts down emotionally, leaving you feeling disconnected and unsure of the future. However, it's important to remember that reactions to unexpected news can vary, and people need time to process and adjust.
Communication is key in times like these. Express your feelings openly and honestly to your partner, letting them know about your fears and concerns. Encourage an open dialogue where both of you can share your emotions, thoughts, and hopes for the future.
It's also essential to take care of yourself during this period. Reach out to supportive friends or family members who can provide a listening ear and offer guidance. If needed, consider seeking professional support from a therapist or counsellor who can help you navigate the complexities of this situation.
Remember that you're not alone in this journey. Many women have experienced similar challenges, and support is available to you here. Trust in your own strength and the journey that lies ahead.
If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to, please feel free to reach out. I'm here to listen and offer support. Take care ❤️
@Nat20dicegoblin
Me personally, I'm the type who withdraws during stressful situations. This just might be his way of dealing with this. It's ok, let him. If he decides to join you in this journey, great! If he doesn't, you'll be fine and so will the baby. Either way, it's his choice and not within your sphere of control. Try to be like Elsa and let it go.
In the meantime, celebrate your pregnancy! As a father of 4, lemme tell you, it's the greatest f-ing experience life has to offer. Focus on your health, mental and physical, cuz it is the best thing you can do for your addition.
I can tell you that single parenting is harder, but it is not impossible. When that baby arrives, you'll know it was all worth it. Then comes the first smile, your heart will melt. That first laugh? There is no sound on earth that is greater than a baby's laugh. If bubbles could speak, it would be baby laughter.
Congratulations, focus on that and you will be fine! Thank you for sharing, God bless you and your child.
I've been in your exact situation. I did have to single parent before meeting my now husband and it wasn't always easy and yes scary but this precious person needs you and your love. She/he is a gift from God regardless of the circumstances. Please know that you can get through this and it's not the end of the world if you have to do this on your own. Hopefully your family, friends will walk with you on this journey. I'm a Christian so my support group was my church family. Maybe that would be a place for support for you.
