10yrs and it’s over now
my ex and i were together for 10 years. we broke up about 8 months ago. my world revolved around her bc i thought it was us forever. so i don’t have any real friends anymore. it’s been a super difficult life changing journey. i started being more friendly with coworkers and it’s been really great. but i rlllly feel alone. i miss having that person.
@raymond1203 I am so sorry to hear how lonely you are. 10 years is quite the time to have been with someone. And while relationships can be a lot of work, some find it comforting to have someone to call "theirs". I'd like for you to know your feelings are valid and understandable. Breakups are a loss and it is ok to grieve missing her or someone in general to be with. It is nice to know you are being more social and friendly with your coworkers. I hope you are able to fill your days and live your new life. I hope that you are able to find healing within due time. Please take care of yourself, Raymond.
thank you so much. that was so kind of you to say. it def has been a struggle. i feel like im having a much harder time letting go and moving on. i think most people would have bounced back much much sooner.
@raymond1203 Aww, you'll get there in due time. Right now it's just an adjustment period in life you have to go through without her in it. It takes time. Just take the time to heal and move forward. Stay positive and strong. :)
that is really good advice. and although i do hurt with her not around, i hurt more with her around. and my life, the life i built for myself is actually cool. im proud of me. 5 years ago i couldn’t go a day without a drink. and today i am a grown as.s man 💪😎👑
i don’t always feel like i believe this but it is what i have to tell myself bc it is true regardless if i feel it at not
I'm sorry you are feeling lonely, it can't be easy to move on from someone you spent so many years with but you are strong.
totally. it’s like reprogramming myself. she was my everything so naturally everything reminded me of her. and even after i was done being hurt and angry and sad…i would still constantly unconsciously think about her. it’s much better now. i’ve found some positive things to focus on. but i still have those moments ya know. and lately ive just been feeling so alone. not hopeless tho…i think if i keep on a positive path i will find someone. im just really lonely rn.
@raymond1203
I get that, just keep that positive attitude and look towards the future. That's all you can do <3
that is very good advice. that is so important. perspective is the most powerful thing we have and keeping it positive is key. but if im being honest with you i am not as positive as i wish i was. i struggle a lot with loneliness and also anger/frustration.
but today is a good day. a very nice relaxing day. so i’m just gonna stay in this moment and mind frame for as long as i can. i also struggle with staying in a good moment. i tend to find possible problems everywhere and it’s a very stressful way to live
very true thank you
