weird friendship
Ive been friends with a girl (P) for the past year and we've become less close recently (she moved away). I would have considered her the closest person in my life. We knew each other through a mutual friend (let's say H). In the last few months, P has not stopped talking about how she hates H, who I still consider a very good friend, and how she is so toxic and there is something dark about her. They used to be very close. P has said that me not siding with P makes me a "peacemaker" and basically implied that I have no backbone, that I wont talk about H. It makes me so uncomfortable when P talks about H, and I know H has noticed how P acts to her as it is very obvious in a group. I have told P several times I am uncomfortable hearing her opinion on H but she doesnt stop. I feel like I am too old for such bitchiness and I feel like I am being looked down upon by trying to ignore this. I know that my opinion of P is going lower and lower every time I talk to her and I hate that I am losing what once was such a good friendship. Does anyone have any advice? I feel so uncomfortable with the friendship being the way it is and I dont know should I just let the friendship drift away. The discomfort of this relationship is on my mind a lot and I dont want that to be something on my mind.
@intuitiveEast2859
Hi East, thank you for sharing that with us.
Hi.
I can understand what you're going through, especially how it constantly occupies your mind. I have lostany friends to different circumstances and it can be hard to go through it.
Since you have been clear about how you feel with your friend and they haven't understood it, there's not much you can do. You can keep trying to tell them but it's up to them to act on it or even understand it.
As for letting it drift, maybe you can see where this friendship is going. If it has come to letting it go then just leave it. Do your part, try talking to them again but if the situation doesn't change or improve you'll probably have to looked out for what's best for you. It's not always in our hands even though we really want the friendship to exist, it's a two way street.
And try to focus on yourself and other things. That's the only way to keep your mind off of it. It'll take time so be patient and kind and let time do it's trick.