comfort in friendships
i've always been an anxious person when it comes to socializing and meeting new people and talking with others, but i've loved having friends and spending time with people despite how introverted and quiet i usually am. i find it easy to get close to others and to have fun once i find a common connection we can make like a similar interest. though i'm someone who's very caring and supportive, some people can take advantage of that. a lot of people have taken advantage of me wanting to listen and a lot of people i trusted have used me to dump all of their feelings on me and it was so draining on me. a lot of them didn't listen to my feelings and what i had to say so it sucked even more that they usually didn't make the exchange equal. i've been able to surround myself with better people, but i find myself nervous around them and keeping them at an arm's length because I'm afraid that they'll hurt me like others did. how can i let people in and share my own feelings with them and come to them when i'm struggling so i can expand my support circle and find comfort in more than one person? i just find it hard to trust others after what's been done to me and i want to believe in the people in my life now because they're so kind and caring and they make me happy
Hi @mobteru. I know someone like you that the type of guy who is really kind and would like to hear people's problem if they need help. And sometimes I just worried if he has the same treatment around him. I had the same experience too anyway. Well I don't really have so many friends but some of people I have around me, even my sister, would talk to me whenever they get problems. But when I need someone to talk to, no one around me I trust to tell them my story or my problems. Sometimes people we know from the internet could understand better than real life people. I think. Especially for introvert who better in express their feeling by texting rather than speaking. That's why I come to this platform. I'm not good at giving advise, but I want you to know that I listen to your story. I hope that's make you feel better. I know it's exhausting, right? You're human being too and deserve the same attention. Take time for yourself and write down your story/problems here whenever you want someone to listen to you. This is my first time here so I haven't try to tell my own story. But I think by telling someone your things, you'll be better 💜
@goldenCat3620 hi! thank you so much for your lovely reply, it means a lot to me. it does make me feel better that someone has read my story and my feelings and has given a response to me, so thank you for that. it is pretty exhausting, and i'm sorry you've been through similar things before. it definitely can be hard for introverts and anyone really, but you're right that some people on the internet can understand better. it's wonderful to see you and i welcome you to 7cups!! i wish you lots of luck in writing your story, i promise it really helps and we're all here to listen to you too ❤️
It's wonderful to see you too! Thank you for welcoming me and your long reply^^ I wish luck for you too :) ❤