My Guy Bestfriend is Falling for Me
I have a close guy friend. We became close in just 5 months. We can talk about anything and we have the same wavelength. He has a girlfriend for 3 years now. He admitted a few days ago that he was falling for me and he wanted to save the friendship instead by telling me about it. I just knew that his gf was jealous of me. And even if I wanted to go back to where we were, I know that it would be wrong because he has a gf and he has feelings for me. Doing so would only be like playing with fire. I'm really torn. Actually we are not in speaking terms, something happened between us. And I really dunno what to do.
Hello Claire!
I read over your post and it sounds like you're stuck in a really difficult position with your bestfriend. Continuing a frienship like nothing happened after you find out he has developed feelings towards you while having a gf does really sound tricky or as you put it, playing with fire.
How do you really want to deal with this situation? If you had to worry about no consequences, what would you choose to do?
@CommunityModTaylor actually I am really torn. Now we are not on speaking terms, and its hard to work with him around. There is a part of me that wants to maintain the friendship. And even if he guaranteed that there wont be any feelings for me anymore, I know that feelings tend to be deceitful. If we get close again, he will fall for me again.
I know the answer to my questions must be really difficult to find since i can't imagine it being easy in any shape of form to feel like or even think about having to end the friendship you have with your best friend. I guess, this is a situation where you both have to come to a common ground which is best for both of you yea?
Like you said, feelings can be deceitful and i can't imagine it being any easier for him to be around you when he has all these feelings for you and he knows you don't reciprocate them.
@FriendlyClaire
