Is this toxic?
I have a friend who is depressed, so am I. I am dealing with a lot right now and so is she. She always reaches ou to me to talk and I wanna be there for her, but some times it's a bit much for me. I don't have any experience what so ever in psychology and i don't feel like I'm the one who is supposed to take care of her weight. She is really sensetive and i feel like if i tell her that i need to focus on my mental health, she will do something to herself. She always say stuff about her being gone and such and I dont really know what to say. Please give me some advice.
@Dancingwithnoone hi! ive been in a similar position of struggling w depression and having a friend come to me regularly for their depression and from my experience, you are not being toxic at all. although you may feel as it is, it is not your responsibility to carry the weight of somebody else's problems, sometimes you need to put yourself first :)
hope this helps!!
@Dancingwithnoone hmm i would just say you don't know how to help them and that maybe they should talk to a threapist or a counsulor depending on how serious it is.
@Dancingwithnoone sometimes it's easy for people to think that their friends are in a better headspace than they are. I think it actually might help to share that you are depressed too and aren't sure how mi h you can handle even though your heart empathize with her. Maybe you can be there for each other, instead of her viewing you as a mentally healthy friend who she can lean on while she's not feeling strong