I am not a mother...

You're not his mother, so why are you babying him? He's a fully capable adult, yes? What would happen if you stop treating him like a kid, would he flounder..or would it be the wake up call he needs to get his life together? I don't know, but naturally if you take that course, allot for some "tantrum" throwing time on his part. Also, have you tried sitting down and having a stern talking to with him? Boyfriend present, of course, and speaking, not nagging or using "you don't this" or "you don't that" language. but respectfully, as you'd want to be addressed if the roles were switched?

Does the deal you made include feeding him and cleaning after him? Probably not. Any deal can be broken, just calculate the cost. Myself or another listener on 7 Cups can give you a sympathetic ear as you work through your options.

Before my boyfriend took him in, he was squatting in empty apartments or living in his car. He would be right back in that spot if we were to kick him out. He has even said before that he doesn't care to live that way. He has no drive. All he wants to do is smoke weed and play video games all day. If we try to talk to him about anything he throws a fit and storms off and slams his door--- much like a child.my boyfriend found him a car, and a job, and put a roof over his head... A place where he can bring HIS child to spend time with him. My boyfriend's car is in the roommate's name due to some things that my boyfriend still needs to take care of (it's a long story but it involves a ton of money). The roommate has that over him. He knows he's needed. So until all of that is squared away... We are stuck with him.