Expectations really hurt
Yesterday I had a big fight with my boyfriend on the topic of earpods that I have gifted him in our first valentine's together . His neighbour's baby broke them off . When i heard I was so hurt . Coz the earpods was a symbol of my sacrifices love and care . I am not earning so I saved little part of my pocket money every month. Firstly I thought I'll buy something for myself but at that time he was not having earpods so I gifted one to him . Ik it's not his fault but i expected him to keep that more safely . Top of that in fight i said "don't text me don't call me " He straight went to sleep without even saying anything. I also said If he will not come back online he would lose me but he didn't even gave fuck and went to sleep. If i would have been in his place one message and i would be back online. This hurted me so much .got to know no matter how you treat the person you can't expect the same treatment from them .
@Inuu06
Inu, Hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt by what happened with your boyfriend and that situation. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel that way. Do you think he may have just went to bed because he didn't want to escalate the situation? i hope everything has worked itself out, either way please don't hesitate to talk to one of our great listeners, or I as well. Don't forget you are worth it, and loved by 7 cups community. <3 bestwishes
I am legit confused . One time he is the sweetest and the other time he is like the most cold hearted person . I am so lost I don't feel like myself . The person i was and the person i am are not same .
@Inuu06
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well.
It's understandable you feel hurt that the EarPods you bought him as a gift are broken, it was something you bought him as a sign of your love and care. We should all value and keep safe the gift we receive from others. There's a good chance he didn't make you feel heard and understood when it comes to this situation, so the argument escalated.
I would like to point out that saying "don't text me don't call me " to another person can actually make the person to not reach out or make a phone call. I understand the reason behind you saying this to him, but it can easily tell the other person "I don't want to talk with you".
He didn't break those ear pods on purpose. I understand you felt emotional when they broke, but you took out your emotions on him. I would explain that to him, and apologize