Bestfriend left me
Hmm.. been going through a year long struggle with my best friend now, ever since she met a guy who became her boyfriend. Things between us changed alot.. and it’s affecting me more than it is for her (she doesn’t seem bothered at all). We used to do alot of things tgt, like baking, trekking and hanging out at each other’s hse over the weekends, but now.. we barely meeting anymore and when she’s available, she would say she has plans with her boyfriend. I tried sharing my feelings with her about this situation through texts, but it took a downturn when she initially just ghosted me on it the entire day and after telling her to stop avoiding me (because I genuinely want to fix things w her), she responded by saying that I was expecting too much from her, and that I’m not seeing the fact that she has someone to spend time with now, and that her priorities has shifted. It feels quite horrible knowing that our 8 years of friendship and everything we’ve been through was so easily overrided by someone she knew for almost a year.
And honestly speaking, her words were quite painful to take in. She once told me that she never saw me as part of her family because her definition of “family” was only through blood relations, while she was my sister to me. Throughout the entire conversation and the many other conversations that I tried to salvage this friendship thats slowly fading away, I always left feeling as though I wasn’t being understood or valued. She kept asking what I wanted from her, which made it feel like this entire friendship was like a transactional business…
I’m really not sure what to do now and it’s painful to watch everything slip away even after doing everything I could.. many have told me to let this friendship go, but this friendship really meant alot to me.
