Why would a nice guy play mind games? Plz help!
So this guy was super into me and I told him that I found him attractive. Since then he’s been negging me.
It’s so weird and confusing bc he really isn’t the type of person who plays games. He was this amazing guy who is super friendly, helpful, speaks up for BIPOC, women, children, etc.
He did something super crappy after which I stopped talking to him and since then he’s been constantly staring at me, staying close to make it obvious that he isn’t going to talk first (even tho he should), is super friendly with my friends, his friends are friendly with me.
I’m not going to run after a guy who’s messing with my head but it’s really frustrating and confusing. He really isn’t a player or anything. I don’t know why he’s acting like this. I don’t know what I should do.
All I know is that I shouldn’t pay him any attention but it’s kind of hard when he isn’t leaving me alone. I don’t know how a person and especially him can act in such a mean way. It’s just not the man I knew.
I am joining this site for similar reason. We been together a year then he is a stranger to me
Hey, I want to tell you that it happens that sometimes people do get distant because of certain reasons. That doesn't necessarily means it's your fault. It can be because they're not into you or they might have other things going in life. I understand that it hurts. Like a lot.
You'll have to communicate about it clearly. It's better to let that person know how it's affecting you and you need a clear response to it. Talking about something is far better than constantly wondering about what went wrong.
You can start with a small conversation and see where it goes. Otherwise you can at least move on and spend those thoughts on your own stuff. ❤️🌸
@pluckyCucumber1209
Hi plucky,
I completely understand where you are coming from and how frustrating it must be to be in a situation like this. Not knowing what's going through his head must be so hard, so I agree with yougotmyback that it might be a good idea to talk with him and express how it's making you feel.
I'm sure he realizes he's getting to you, but maybe he doesn't realize how rude it's coming off? It might sound dumb but to me, it seems like he misses you and is just trying to stay close to you in hopes that something will come of your relationship again. With this in mind, if you haven't discussed that with him, I feel like it would help him understand that you do not want anything to do with him in that way so that he clearly understands and realizes what he's doing.
Like others have said, I don't think you've done anything wrong and it isn't fair for him to be putting you in this situation, but don't be afraid to speak your mind