Try dating again?
I'm wondering if it is healthy to return to dating apps while still slowly climbing up from a depressive episode.
The thing is that after years of rejections and similar patterns of being drawn to unavailable people I know I suffer at the slightest rejection.
I had removed the apps when the depression returned full blast and I have zero confidence and cannot imagine anyone wanting to date a person with frequent depressive episodes .
Yet for some reason the only thing I seem to be able to think of to maybe start waking me to life again is to find a good connection. But don't know how to balance out the high risk of rejection which in itself triggers depression with that of remaining impervious to life and uninterested in anything around me.
This time it is taking much longer for me to climb up
@anonyLemon4233
You are experiencing depression that can be overwhelming and hard to get out of, but you'd like to connect. I think given how difficult it is, it makes sense to want to avoid triggering yourself, but also looking at the world around you can be a positive step! You are the expert on yourself, and it sounds like you have a lot of experience with coping and triggers that could be very helpful.
Sending you good wishes!
@snowylovegood thanks for your feedback and for the wishes!
Wishing you well
Hi @anonyLemon4233
I believe that, if we wait for the “perfect” moment, we will never do anything, as there’s always something we can change or improve upon, and as you’ve been thinking about it a lot, I think you should go for it! You are definitely worthy of love and affection, and the right person will embrace your true self and love you for what you are.
However, as you said, when dating you inevitably have to deal with rejection, and that is something that can truly break your heart into pieces (I struggle with rejection A LOT and it’s seriously the worst).
With that said, I think it can be helpful to think that when someone doesn’t want a relationship with you, they are indeed doing you a favor as you would not be happy with them and they can’t give you the love that you deserve, so they are leaving room for the right person who can love you for what you are. Also, your value is not determined by other people; your value is determined by your wonderful and unique self.
Best of luck for the future, and I really hope that brighter days are just ahead!
@IAmALittleLight I'm only seeing your feedback now.
Thank you so much for your encouragement and kind words. I appreciated the thought you shared about seeing rejection as space being opened up for someone else. I do hope I can experience it some day soon.
Thank you for your wishes and I also wish you well!
