Social media followings
i caught my boyfriend following a bunch of half naked girls on tiktok.
i’ve noticed that he followed a couple girls with a lot of vids of them bouncing their stuff around or looking sexual. I didn’t really care at first but then i noticed his followings would grow higher and it would just be a bunch of girls. Its digusting behaviour. Such a red flag right? Like i don’t have a similar body to them which makes me so insecure. Its sad cos in person i would show him like a nice picture of a girl and he wouldnt want to look but he wud look at half naked girls during his alone time. Especially on fcking tiktok? Really? A place where you usually go for jokes or memes! Like go on phub or something jk
another red flag 🚩 : when we would say our good nights txts he wouldnt actually go to bed - he wud go back to tiktok because in the morning i wud see that his followings would be higher than the previous night. Which wud be new girls.
i already confronted him about it and you know what he said “i admit i do follow a lot of girls but yes it is a guy thing, but lets say its like what you girls do, you follow guys you look and thats all, those are my intentions, but if it does bother you i will gladly unfollow no problem” so i was telling him not to generalize guys and girls. Because i’m talking about HIM. Also when girls follow guys its literally not the same. Like me personally i don’t stalk guys behind my bfs back even if they’re celebrities? (Ok maybe shawn mendes and harry styles.) i told him i’m not stupid and that i know he jerks off to them but he bluntly denied that. like no fucking way. Thats what hurts the most. Like i have so many questions. I feel sick. I dont know what to do. I love him so much or am i blindly inlove with him? We’ve been together for 3 yrs (22/23)..
im just so hurt. I dont know how to forgive him. Because he knows how much of an insecure person i am. I dont have a fit body. I’m a little chubby. the fact that he lied saying no he doesnt jerk off to those girls hurts alot
I can relate to this and know how you feel. It's heartbreaking at times
@chloebologna You don't have to forgive anyone whom you feel like should not be forgiven. What he is doing is intentionally placing blame on you and anyone else. He doesn't want to admit to accountability. A relationship takes two to tango, and if one side doesn't trust the other and the boundaries in the relationship aren't clear, it is not bound to last.