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Relationship Struggle

FalconFootball91 October 24th

So I had a breakup about 9 months ago and the relationship was very toxic, she was constantly playing mind games and stuff like that, I want to get in another relationship but I'm scared of being manipulated again or just straight up being used, how do I know I won't be a rebound again and won't be used? I'm not sure what to do, I want to date again but I'm scared

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toughTiger6481 October 24th

@FalconFootball91

How you do it is to set boundaries .... share your boundaries with potential dates.  

if anything behaviors seem to show up ... Speak up and stop before it becomes toxic.  I think in dating you will find some deal breakers and we say to ourselves give them one more chance and then another and we get angry that it happens again because we showed them we will tolerate it.  

When dating setting and keeping boundaries is much easier then trying to  fix a problem after the fact. 

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FalconFootball91 OP October 24th

@toughTiger6481
Thank you, I'm just paranoid of dating now because I feel like all girls are kinda the same, should I try to date again and risk my heart being shattered again?

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toughTiger6481 October 24th

@FalconFootball91

No all girls are NOT the same and they have anxiety about what all boys are like too...

if you are looking for something REAL it is risky and even in a relationship there will be times when you may become disappointed or hurt. 

Most things in life Worth something take some risk.... 

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I feel the same way. I’ve been in a relationship for 18 years with a total narcissist and it’s very hard especially with children.

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FalconFootball91 OP October 24th

@selfdisciplinedWheel6022
thats tough, im sorry u have to go thru that

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