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Need some advice

I’m currently in my first healthy relationship (i’ve had one VERY toxic one before) and we’d been dating for 4 months but officially together for 1 month. We speak a lot daily and have spent a lot of time together, met each other’s friends and we know each other very well. It’s literally a great relationship, easy communication which stops conflicts and you get the rest…


This is his first relationship (he’s doing great regardless) and in my first one it was a lot of love bombing and rushed, however I’m really realising that i’m IN love with him (like deep emotion love) and i’ve caught myself trying to keep the special 3 words (ILY) from coming out.


I don’t doubt that he’s feeling deeper emotions and he’s great at showing it but i don’t want to scare him by saying it because it’s his first relationship.


I was with him yesterday and found a moment that would’ve been perfectly in the moment to confess how i feel but because of this fear i stopped myself and i slightly regret it.


Could anyone give me some advice or how and when they did it in their relationship?

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innateJoy9602 August 23rd, 2022

@straightforwardBeechwood6877

Hello!

I appreciate you are leaning on the community for support<3

I’m also incredibly happy to hear that you are in a healthy relationship!

That’s very great to hear!!

Follow your heart and do what you feel is best <3

Sending many hugs :D ✨💛

walkalot August 23rd, 2022

Maybe one month is a bit early. I say wait for about three months. If you want, you can say, “I feel like saying, ‘I love you’. Would that make you uncomfortable?” This wait you can test the waters without jumping all the way in.

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straightforwardBeechwood6877 OP August 23rd, 2022

yeahh i get that! we’d been in a weird kinda unlabelled relationship for about 2 months prior but finally put a name on it from last month that’s why i don’t fully feel like it’s been that short but waiting it out a bit may be a good idea!

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