Fighting

@zoeysepic

I understand. Its so hard when you love someone but you fight a lot. I hear that you want one thing and keep getting another. And don't know what to do about it.

The thing is, is there any need to do anything about it urgently?

Maybe some thoughts from my experience may help. Maybe they won't. You can ignore them if they are no help.

In my experience indecision cones from a lack of self belief. Perhaps you don't feel you know what the right thing to do is? Difficult relationships where there is quite a bit of criticism can result in a lot of self doubt. So maybe take a bit of time to rediscover how wonderful you are. You don't have to leave the relationship to do this. Just deciding that you are worth a bit of time each week discovering what is important to you, can do wonders for your sense of self worth.

And in my experience, a big way to stop fighting is to learn to listen. 7 cups has some great courses on how to really listen.

Best wishes. Whatever you decide.

@zoeysepic

I believe it may be some sense of comfort and security, when you are together with the same person again, but at the same time you seem to be aware of the fact there WAS a certain reason for your previous breakup.

A friend of mine used to call one of my past relationships an "Italian marriage", where love and passion go hand in hand with fighting and arguments. On the other hand, I also had some connections which felt calm, warm and secure, with no need for too many ups and downs.

Do you think people change over time? In your opinion, how much they can change?

What would be your best reflection about what you need and expect from a relationship?