The Core Values That Every Relationship Should Have
Every relationship has its struggles. Whether it’s romantic, a situationship, or a friendship, I believe they all need specific requirements to meet the needs of both parties. In this article, I will be talking about the core values that I believe every relationship should have. The four most important components are: trust, boundaries, communication and loyalty.
Trust
Trust is important to have in a relationship because it prevents behaviours that cause mistrust. For example, if Sam doesn’t trust their significant other, Alex, Sam might resort to unhealthy behaviours they ultimately cause mistrust between both people.
Consider This:
If you know that you have trouble trusting people, do some research on that topic, maybe talk to someone about it, try to find a way to cope with those feelings. Sometimes just saying “I’m going to choose to trust them” is a helpful perspective that at least helps me when I’m having trouble.
Boundaries and Communication
Boundaries tell the other person what your limits are. If you don’t set boundaries, your partner might unknowingly cross a line. This might spiral into an argument. Now, some arguments are normal to have in a relationship. I would even be concerned if there were never any arguments. To prevent frequent arguments, communication is the way to go.
Consider This:
Communicating boundaries without being controlling is important to consider.
What are your boundaries?
Are they fair?
Talk to your partner and ask them theirs.
Loyalty
If you want a serious relationship, you have to make sure you are loyal to them and them only. Cheating will be caught eventually and you will have to deal with the consequences.
Consider This:
If you have feelings for someone else, are you really in love with your significant other?
Thanks for reading and I hope this helps!
SelListens
@sellistens
Much agree with all these necessary values in any kind of relationship. Thank you for putting it together.💛
No problem!
@sellistens
its true that trust ,loyality and communication are core ofrelationships . like you talk about trust being important and its usually difficult to trust one another , i usually believe exchange of 1-2 dark secrets with one another is best way to start trusting other . " i am going to choose to trust them" usually dosent work cause trust issues always come up cause they faced something in the past " alex expecting sam to share his personal feelings for alex daily routine is highly unfair, equal value exchange is a better way than to be positive .
then coming on boundaries , its okay to have boundaries and one must have boundaries but keep to a minimal based on what one would not tolerate else it will spiral out of control , i have heard several times , that when alex/sam doesnt like something by sam/alex, it becomes a boundary and now they have 105 boundaries . at that point communication goes out of the window . sam / alex may agree in present moment that each boundary is fair and just but in long run they would think its choking them but who should speak first about it.
finally Loyality
biggest enemy / obstacle of Loyality is Frustration . in simple terms , its never ok to cheat and if you cheat accept consequences.lets say alex and sam are dating , you know alex has a habit of telling her day when alex and sam are together , due to some work reason , they are unable to meet at all and phone conversations are not enough to connect that creates frustration. you can try it too, just stop talking to anyone that you usually talk to for just 1 day , if you are sam , you are not allowed to play games to relieve stress . you will build frustration and then tell yourself what possible options you have to get out the situation now and 20 years down the line.
