Should I keep trying or leave?
My wife cheated on me 9 years ago with 2 different men. On was an ongoing affair that lasted 4 months. I have trieds to get past this, been to a couple of therapists, and mostly we are doing okay. There have been a couple of incidents that invloved her drinking since then but no more cheating that I know of. I wake up every day thinking about how her actions made me feel and it makes me sad. I have a hard time looking at anything she does without looking through the filter of cheating. I don't feel totally safe or trusting any more. I wish I knew what to do.
@mdrewanderson
I can understand your situation, once hurt and its even mokre logical to see her through that lens....
But here rather getting tough on yourself, you need to understand, its normal people who suffered betrayel will react same as you are........I think you need to look more internally and rather than taking a blind jump, you need to make yourself emotionally strong and protective,,, I know its sounds hard, you love her.. may be you need a position where even if she does something, you have your peace and if she is loyal, its always good..
Keep an open mind and be honest with each other to work through it.
