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mdrewanderson
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Should I keep trying or leave?
Relationship Stress / by mdrewanderson
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 September 15th, 2020
...See more My wife cheated on me 9 years ago with 2 different men. On was an ongoing affair that lasted 4 months. I have trieds to get past this, been to a couple of therapists, and mostly we are doing okay. There have been a couple of incidents that invloved her drinking since then but no more cheating that I know of. I wake up every day thinking about how her actions made me feel and it makes me sad. I have a hard time looking at anything she does without looking through the filter of cheating. I don't feel totally safe or trusting any more. I wish I knew what to do.
Not sure if I should stay or go.
Relationship Stress / by mdrewanderson
Last post
 October 29th, 2019
...See more My wife of nearly 20 years cheated on me several years ago. I caught her and we went through a long time of therapy, fights, apologies, etc. The whole thing started with a blackout drunk cheating eppisode in Vegas with a guy at a learning conference she attended. She then continued to have sex with again a couple more times. She then started a several month affair with another man that included them sleeping together at another business conference. I found some of the messages and caught her making plans to go visit him for a week. She has since apologized and done a lot to make me feel wanted again. Fast forward- I was to the point where we were good together again and then we went together to a business conference earler this year and she got blackout drunk and was flirting with another man. I took her to our room and she dissaperared. I found her in the lobby about to get arrested for walking through the hotel naked. She has since been trying to manage drinking and started meds for ADHD which had been undiagnosed until now. I have found that she sneaks drinks when I'm not around and now doesn't even hide it. She won't drink at home but will when she leaves the house. She says she will probably always drink and just wants to manage it better. I am struggling with whether to stay or cut my losses and leave. Either choice completely sucks.
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