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tips on how to dump a guy nicely ???

turhake September 30th, 2014

im in a relationship with a guy but i feel trapped and not good and i want to get out of the relationship. the prpblem here is that i dont want him to get hurt because he really seems to like me and i like him i just cant commit to a relationship but i dontknow how to dump him nicely i donteven know how to dump in the first place??? can someone please help i cant do this

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Brittany96 September 30th, 2014

Honestly, I think everyone gets hurt by being dumped, regardless of how nice someone is being about it. But I think he'd be even more hurt by you continuing to stay in a relationship with him when you don't even want to be with him. It's really up to you to decide how to go about this, but my suggestion would be just to walk up to him and nicely explain why you are no longer interested in being in a relationship with him.

StephenHenry91 October 1st, 2014

It is never nice to be dumped, to be turned down. But is worse is to feel hurt. If you make it clear that you respect him, and that you have legitimate reasons for not wanting a relationship then yeah he'll be upset. But he will accept it because you have been honest and respectful. And that is a kindness, in the long run.

Mirea December 10th, 2016

@turhake

The kindest way to break up with someone is quickly and without ambivalence.

He will hurt. Attempts to soften the blow usually lead to the dumped person holding out hope that you will get back together. In the long run, that's far more painful. Also, putting it off is cruel because when you finally do break up, he'll feel like a fool for thinking everything was fine while you were wanting out.

It sucks being on either end of it. There is no way around that. Just be forthright, respectful and kind. Don't make any promises you don't know you can keep. Good luck.