my ex bf got a new gf after 2 days of the breakup
i dont know what to feel. Or what to think.
we were together for 3 years. I loved him so much and was a really good girlfriend. he was a narcissist and i didn’t realize it sooner because i was blindly in love with him. we had a multiple arguments which werent even arguments about him not prioritizing our relationship and how he was so emotionally unavailable. He kept promising & lovebombing. So i stayed and hoped to see change. But it never happened..
fast forward to now,
he is so comfortable about talking about his love & dating life to me. He literally met a girl on a dating app and started dating her, going to each others houses, etc. its so hard… to let him go. I am still very emotionally attached to him. Its only been 2 days since the break up! We were together for 3 years and he already replaced me with a random girl who he just met.
the thing is when we broke up he said lets focus on ourselves and prioritize our finances & work. But he did the complete opposite! Like he keeps on lying to me.
He wants to stay friends and in contact with me. I know I shouldn’t because it hurts so much to see that he already moved on to a different girl.
i dont want to block him or anything because i still want to check up on him even though he doesn’t care about me. Hes a narcissist and will do anything for validation from anybody.
like how do you throw away three years just like that?
@chloebologna
You let go ASAP why because 3 years is one thing .....................but what happens when it is 5 yrs or 10
i look at relationships like investments ........if you were losing every day most people would pull the plug quickly not say "Well , i have 3 yrs invested lets keep risking losing more"
The fact he had someone to date 2 days after says it all Narc will do or say anything to keep you in the picture move on and celebrate being free
@chloebologna honestly don't throw around the NPD diagnosis if you think he has it i would seek advice from a therapist
@chloebologna
Sometimes the only way to win is not to play the game.
He’s broadcasting his every move to you because he wants to emphasise how little you meant to him. He says he wants to maintain a friendship with you as a pretext to keep you in his life, so that you can be an audience to his callous display of ‘moving on without you’. It’s completely pointless except to flatter and satisfy his own ego. Real genuine friends don’t act this way towards people they actually care about.
Just know that you don’t gain anything as long as you keep giving him what he wants by participating/spectating in his childish display.
@chloebologna
my advice is to let go of him i know its difficult with the amount of time u spent together but u have to move on from him
I don't think you should contact him anymore. I understand that he is and will always be a narcissist, but don't let him further hurt you or string you along. It can get easy to get caught up in their lies and the little bits of attention that he might give you but it's not worth you losing you sanity or life over. Yes he is dating another person 2 days after you broke up. I think it is beyond horrible that he is telling you about it but let me tell you this. That relationship will not last and I'll tell you why. He has not grieved you or dealt with his own emotions for your breakup. This new person is just a distraction. He will eventually repeat the same patterns and behavior and use others to not deal with his own issues and past. These types will go through relationships after relationship like wrecking balls because they can't realize that the problem was them the entire time. You didn't do anything wrong. These individuals will not accept their behavior and change because it does not benefit them. Its good you are gone because any more time with this type of person you will need more healing for. I'm proud that you're out, now be out and enjoy your new life without others who aren't good for you. :)