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BeeWamble Saturday

Hi!

I broke up 2 month ago from a year and a half relationship. We loved each other, it just too many conflict around us, we just don't get along. I feel like our lifestyle didn't match that's why there is things that each of us couldn't tolerate in the others life.

from the day we broke up, i settle myself to be better. To love myself more. so i don't seek to be back in that relationship ever again. i was doing so well. even tho there is times where i miss him (i still checked his profile online).

weeks ago, i just found out he started seeing another girl. the girl is actually my friend, not a close one but still. it broke my heart and my healing process felt like it need to start all over from 0 again. it hurt to see that, im speculating that am i worthless to him? that its so easy for him to get over me? or he just need that rebound relationship to heal himself?

he was so sweet to me, loving, never intended to hurt me, promise to marry me someday.  guy i always dreams of. But him get over me in just 2 month? well, ouch

i need a way to heal myself from this, to stop myself from comparing my life to his.

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toughTiger6481 3 days ago

@BeeWamble

sometimes when we find out that a person we can not get along or had conflicting lifestyles .. you both may have loved each other but sometimes sadly that is NOT enough.  If you love him you do not want him to be happy....  even if it is with a girl you know of. 

It is not that you are forgotten but maybe he felt that relationship would not work and he wants a partner  ... how long is the appropriate before he dated again?  when will you date again?   

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BeeWamble OP 2 days ago

Hi there! Yea. If i love him i would want him to be happy, but rn rather thank think of him, i think of me. I want to be happy. It just he told me often that it took him about a year to moved on from his ex before me. So i was hurt when i know its only 2 months and he already seeing another girl.


It will always hurt whenever it is i guess. Maybe i envied of him doing better than me.


Personally, i dont wanna date in this short term. Just wanna focus on my study

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toughTiger6481 2 days ago

@BeeWamble

I think time between getting over someone is not comparable.  Comparison is rocket fuel for self doubt and lowering our self esteem. 

It is not a reflection on his feelings he had when with you.   When i met my partner i was not looking and was fine alone. We do not know when we meet someone and life often does not happen on our planned  schedule. 

enjoy your good memories of your time together .... and hope he has found what he was looking for even if it is not you

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