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brightThinker8130 October 9th, 2021

my boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago

he said that he was too busy and he couldn’t even see his friends

and he couldn’t handle a relationship if we couldn’t talk or see each other

he cried the whole time

but when i tried to be near him he pushed me away

he said it’ll be easy for me to move on and that i deserved a lot better

at the start of the relationship i told him i needed a person i could depend on and he promised he could give that to me

so maybe that’s what crushed him that he couldn’t keep that promise

but i have a feeling there’s something he didn’t tell me and i don’t know if he actually cared or not


at the end he didn’t want to leave me on my own and wanted to take me home

but i wanted to break things off better than that and i tried to kiss him

and he broke down completely and didn’t let me

kissed me on the forehead and left me on a park bench



i don’t know what to do we haven’t talked since

when i saw him he pretended not to see me but he looked crushed

even though i was ok i would have had no problem talking to him

i really fucking miss him

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HarleyQuinn333 October 9th, 2021

I understand. I broke up with my boyfriend but I miss him all the time. For me it’s a little different but honestly the breakup was coming. We were toxic with each other, mostly me to him tbh.


i would honor my feelings and maybe there IS something he isn’t telling you. Maybe it would really hurt your feelings if he did. Try to be positive: he is crushed so he does care about you. You never know if in some time you will be back together. Don’t do anything you’ll regret if you know what I mean.


feel better and try to focus on you. Look as cute as possible. It’s normal to miss him. Be good to yourself.hope this helps

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brightThinker8130 OP October 9th, 2021

@HarleyQuinn333

thanks it really did help

<3


i mean you’d think that if you care enough you can make things work

i don’t understand what problem is so big that it can’t be fixed

but on the other hand i’ve already accepted it

i just wish it had gone differently you know

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sincereFriend8554 October 9th, 2021

im a guy:


how long were you guys together?


did he ever mention this during the relationship?


do you feel rejected or miss him?


what value did he add to your life and what value did you add to him?


tip. Talk to us about your feelings don’t talk to him. He needs to see how life is without you!


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brightThinker8130 OP October 9th, 2021

@sincereFriend8554

we were together for a few months

i’m 16, he’s 20

so our lifestyles are completely different

but it felt good when we were together and i feel like it was cut off before it had the chance to properly settle

he said it would only get worse if it went on

and that if it had started sooner or after school/uni started it probably would have lasted but i don’t know if that was to make me feel better or if it was sincere


at the very beginning we was more involved than i was, i had doubts because i don’t trust easily but again he convinced me that it was worth a try

which is the reason why it’s hard

i don’t really know what value it added to his life at this point

we both wanted to do so many things together

but i know that i was happier and opened up for once


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brightThinker8130 OP October 9th, 2021

@brightThinker8130


we talked about the age difference but agreed that because i’m mature for my age it worked

but maybe he changed his mind or something

his ex cheated on him so that came up too

we only started talking less when school started again and he said a couple weeks ago “you know it’s only going to get harder the more it goes on”

but i THOUGHT we agreed we were going to work on iy

then he went to vienna for a week and we didn’t see each other for another week

and then we broke up

so i’m thinking something happened in vienna

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vlostwithyouv October 9th, 2021

Cheating, std, not enough sèx, or bad sèx.. think that pretty much covers it . Unless you want to ask him...

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brightThinker8130 OP October 9th, 2021

@vlostwithyouv

yo but he was cheated ON

and we talked about sex and he was completely chill about it

std i doubt it

idk

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brightThinker8130 OP October 9th, 2021

@brightThinker8130

also i asked if he was sure he wanted to break up and he said he wasn’t at all

that he might regret it in the future but that it was the “right choice”

the only choice

so maybe something happened that messed his head up and convinced him that it was all over

and felt guilty talking to me about what he was feeling