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Relationship Stress / by sincereFriend8554
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 October 10th, 2021
...See more My ex and I dated for 9 months but was talking for 3 months. After the 3 months I asked her out in a Helicopter, then we went for medi & pedi, then we made our own Ice cream, finally we had dinner by the river. I’m hopeless romantic guy. Throughout the relationship, I would take her horseback riding, sip and paint, fancy and not so fancy dinner. Dance classes, salsa, family function, walks in the parks. Intentional morning texts describing how beautiful she is follow up with a bible verse. I would get us books to read with follow up questions at the end of each chapter, just to see if we aligned for the present and for the future. Whenever I would have a hard dicussion/disagreement. I would pray and have us read the Bible and discuss what was read before we actually have the discussion/disagreement. It’s my way of De-escalating before it escalate. And sometime it would still escalate. She wasn’t good at supporting me and she could never keep long/short terms friends around. The only person she would talk to is her mom and her younger sister. She have a hard time understanding that men have feeling and should be purse/desire by their partner. Case in point. I took her on dates just about once a week for 4 months before she ever volunteer to pay or even take me out on a date. I took her to NYC for her first time for Valentine’s Day. Then Hawaii for my birthday. Assisted in her family for her suprise party, took her to FL for her birthday and took care of her for 10 days when she had covid19. During these 9 months I would get her car service, wash and fold her clothes while she’s at work and would work from home ( I wanted her to come to a clean house after work quit often) I would send her food or edible arrangement to her job. Or even pop up at her job for lunch and to take her car to clean it. I’m really REALLY big on act of service! I would leave sticky notes randomly around the house and every month on the 1st I would bring her flowers. With all that being said. We broke up 6 times during this 9 months of officially dating. I found text message she was having( break 1) I ask if she still have romantic feeling for her ( break 2) and I once asked to go to her phone she no and I wanted 24 hour to ask again and she said no (break 3) she broke up me for the following reason (break 1) I asked if she can bring my mealprep to the door she said no and broke up with me. (Break up 2) I asked can she help clean my house she said no and break up with me. (Break up 3) we had a argument and I told her she should humble herself and she broke up with me. And she has not returned. I’m distraught because of how I showed up in the relationship she didn’t. And I just feel like I was used, taking advantage of, and she was easily brittle to always wanting to leave. And I hate how much of me I gave to myself to her. I told her she was my gift and after the 2nd day I KNEW I WANTED TO MARRY HER. We meet on tinder and on the day she broke up with me. I went back on tinder to tell her how disappointed I am. Because she broke up with me via text. 3 months later I go back to tinder and she unmatched. Which mean she’s on tinder looking for love or something. I’m realizing I was a rebound THIS WHOLE TIME. This is my 2nd real relationship and I’m 35 years of age and I thought I was really done with dating. I’ve been in therapy because of this. Keep me in your thoughts and prayer
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