When does the pain of divorce subside?
I've been separated and now divorced my my husband for 5 years and I feel like the wounds are still so open and raw. I truly believe I've developed PTSD from the whole experience and its left me traumatized and broken hearted. I'm still so devastated and I just keep cycling thru tho stages of grief but I never complete the acceptance stage bc I cannot accept it. I just cant. I dont want to accept that it's over, I no longer have my precious little family, I dont sleep next to my soulmate every night and I will never have those things back. And, to add to the pain of all the loss, also destroyed are my hopes and dreams for the 3 of us for the future.
I feel like I will never truly heal or be whole again. Someone tell me I'll be okay one day. Because this is not getting any easier.
Dear you will be okay let me help you get through this 5 years is a long time so it's time you stop punishing yourself
@kindCircle3085,
There is no time limit for grieving, anger, wanting to get back, acceptance.
You can't change the situation. You can allow yourself to grieve. I am still grieving after almost a year. Less so, started to accept. There was and still is a deep love between me and my wife, one that will always be there. And I am turning that towards myself
I apply self compassion. You might want to read a book called Self Compassion, by Kristin Neff.
Take care of self, be kind and gentle to you. Whatever time it takes
@kindCircle3085- it sounds like the divorce was not initiated by you. If that is true then it makes sense why you are feeling so lost, hurt and lonesome for your previous life.
