After 25 yrs together, and 23 yrs married, 3 wonderful kids, home, etc, she says "We married to young"... so she moved out. She did tell me this just didn't happen overnight, but was evolving.
My mom who's always been with me was a part of the household after marriage and gave support wherever she could with kids, help in keeping home functional, cooking, etc but tradeoffs were that she seems to have insecurities or borderline personality issues, depression, and/or slight bi-polar. She could sometimes make the energy in the room feel negative and there has been many times where she made my wife feel as if she's walking on eggshells as there were things that wasn't up par according to moms standards. I was never biased and called out my mom whenever I saw her in the wrong and other times, without defending my mom, I would try and explain that mom is from a different generation and that comes with different values and expectations but it's no excuse for her behavior.
Her and I were best friends and at times, of course with any marriage, had our ups & downs, rough patches, but I never raised my voice towards her, or even put a finger in her face. We celebrated so many good positive moments through our life together, but most, if not all of it doesn't matter now as any and most mistakes from past that didn't matter, now do matter, hence leading to "We married to young"..She herself has struggled with some sort of depression at times, not clinical.
There's so much more to it as far as owning my mistakes from past and present, unfortunately, we handled conflicts differently, resentments came into play, etc. Meanwhile, I'm trying to figure how she has become so cold towards me, a person I don't recognize anymore, especially we are both from broken homes and it seemed like we'd never put our kids through that, but here we are.
Slowly, I saw distancing, told me not to hold her all the time as I always held her for a short while, then turn over to go to sleep, months later, she asked me to sleep in another room. We went on a family vacation and once we returned, a month later, letter stating she is wanting out of the marriage and listed some of these reasons why.