Was me breaking up with him too drastic?

There was this person that I met about three years ago when I moved to my college town. I met him at my job and I found him funny and attractive, and I went up to him and expressed that I wanted to get to know him. Sometime later we started dating, but it wasn’t going very well because he was dealing with substances in some self-esteem and mental issues. It only lasted for about three months, but it was a really bad heartbreak. 

We got into contact in 2024 and he wanted to be friends and see if our friendship could develop into something more again. He wanted to prove to me that he could be better this time around and he came and drove to see me for hours and help me cook and host for Friendsgiving. He also came to visit me again and when I worked, he cleaned my room and took care of my dog. Then he came to visit me one last time before I went on vacation with family for the new year. 

I think he is really sweet and he asked me to officially be together December 20 24 and I thought things were going great. But it seems like when we made it official all that effort that he was showing me before we were together I went out the door. He didn’t plan any dates he didn’t take the initiative to do anything I always texted. I always called first and I always had to plan the next time we were gonna hang out or see each other. When I communicated these things, he said that he would work on it and do check-in because I didn’t like that. I wasn’t hearing from him until nighttime. 

He did making an attempt to change and do those check ins, but he thought that because he didn’t have a job he couldn’t plan dates.

But long story short I think overall he just wasn’t ready for a relationship in my opinion I feel like if a man at the age of 23 is looking for a relationship he should have more going for himself. He lived with his mom and it seemed like I was getting in the way. Why would someone begging for a second chance not make sure their life is together before trying again? 

But honestly, I think what really where’s the last straw is disrespect. I said something playfully about his mom asking her husband to help her shave because her belly would get big from being pregnant just like Kourtney Kardashian with Scott. And because his mom was walking in and I had no idea when we were on the phone, he said “ well yeah I gotta go. Say hi to my mom.” And then abruptly hung up in my face. Then when I communicated that hanging up in my face is disrespectful and I didn’t like it. He told me I was pouting instead of apologizing, and then that just set me off. Was I wrong to break up with him?