No More Contact (For Awhile)
After attempts to reforge something even though we were broken up earlier this year I feel heartbroken all over again. I admitted I liked him and it was like we were seeing each other again, we even kissed and slept together. But after some nights ago we talked on the phone and he said he didn't want to lead me on even though he tried. I stupidly called him last night but he said that I need to stay away from him for my benefit, until we can try being friends. But knowing me I'll probably still feel for him and will probably have stupid hope that we could be together again. I feel so lost, like all happiness is gone, like there's no motivation to get me out of bed each morning. Dealing with depression and anxiety is enough, I don't want this pain.
@FallingCrescent
Hey, I'm so sorry that you're going through a break up. I know how tough they can be, how hopeless you can feel, how unbearable it can be to miss your ex. I just want you to know that you're not alone in this, that we're here for you as a community on 7 cups. Feel free to message any listener on here and vent about your break up, maybe cry, or do something that helps you cope in a healthy manner. Just take it day by day~
@emitlove
Thank you for replying and the support. It's really tough and I feel pretty weak in comparison to other people who seem to be able to bounce back and motivate themselves to get out there. I'm unsure whether I'm being stupid for having hope, I even asked him a few times repeatedly over the two phone calls if it's impossible to imagine us getting back together.
I'll try to get myself out there, connect with friends, and focus on myself because I know that deep down it isn't healthy to be so reliant on one person for my happiness.
@FallingCrescent
Hey, I totally understand. I was the same way when I got out of my 3-year long relationship. He even cheated on me, but I was so attached to him that I was willing to continue to ask him if he saw us together again in the future. It took a long time to get over him, and I always felt like I needed to text him and/or see him just to see how he was doing. But I realized I needed to start taking care of myself. And focusing on the people around me who actually still cared about me helped a lot. I know it'll be a hard journey for you to move on, but it's definitely possible. Keep your head up high. :)
@emitlove
Thanks, I will try my best.
@FallingCrescent
@FallingCrescent I think sometimes no contact is the best. I had ben continuing to try and talk to my ex after we were broken up then I got upset and depressed again once I realized things were different and the end was permanent. I think it set me back a ways in my healing. You need more time to adjust and get through the painful stuff of letting go...
