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My fiancee broke up with me and I cant move on

peacefulReeds7160 October 23rd, 2020

My fiancee broke up with me. We fought over the wedding date. It is so shallow. We were having a heated fight, I got mad and returned the ring but i said i didnt mean it i was just upset and i said sorry. But he said he couldnt go on anymore after i returned the ring. He told me he loved me but because of what happened we cant go forward anymore. He said this hurt him as well. We were suppose to get married october. We broke up july. After we broke up i tried to talk to him to work things out, but he said he cant talk to me anymore because he is just doing his best to be able to move on from this. It has been over 3 months now. Until now i dont understand why we had to break up. If he loved me and if this hurt him too why wont he work it out with me. I know only he can answer this question. But he told me his decision is made up and he wants to break up. And i am trying to respect it. But i cant move on. I used to be a type a personality. I crave to excel and learn. But together with this happening to me, i am not really on good terms with my only sister as well, and the rest of my family we dont really have good communication. Without my family and the future family I looked forward to, material goals seem pointless. Material things and success without people to care about, they dont really matter. Its like all the things i worked hard for, nothing really matters any more.

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Asher November 18th, 2020

It seems that this breakup for you is really tough. Am sorry your going through this in your life.

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peacefulReeds7160 OP November 19th, 2020

@Asherwolfice thank you for your time thoughts and sympathy.

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limeTortoise7286 November 22nd, 2020

@peacefulReeds7160 I'm sorry peaceful I to have been recently dumped by my fiancee just a couple of days ago and am trying to do my best. I know it seems bleak and I know it feels hard but you have to look up on the horizon and hold your chin up say I am who I am and will learn from my mistake

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peacefulReeds7160 OP November 25th, 2020

@limeTortoise7286 im so sorry to hear that. I know how hard it is. One thing I have learned about this is to be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. 🤗🤗 The choices other people make or the opinions of other people about us are beyond our control. I hope you have only kind thoughts about yourself and stay healthy. ❤ remember your worth and value and hope some day other people will see it too ❤❤

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limeTortoise7286 November 25th, 2020

@peacefulReeds7160 thank you and I'm trying though I can barely eat at the time being I will continue to get up and move on in life and look towards a better day and life that something good may come of this. I will try to have kind and peaceful thoughts for myself and I hope you are healing alright and am getting better.

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KatLis123 November 22nd, 2020

@peacefulReeds7160

I understand it's hard Reeds. It's been a tough journey for you to try move on from your relationship. It's reasonable that you are both hurt by what happened. But sounds like you went on differently about this. You wanted to be with him yet your ex-partner refused to cooperate and decided it's best to go separate ways. I am so sorry that this happened to you sweetheart. Many of us here had gone through rough patches like these, heartbroken. It took lots of guts, effort and time to get better and start life anew. And eventually realize there's more to life than being in a relationship with someone you aren't happy with. Keeping yourself happy is the most loving thing you can do for yourself. When you have that, you will bring many wonderful things into your new relationship.

Please keep us updated. We look forward to hearing how you've been keeping.

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peacefulReeds7160 OP November 25th, 2020

@KatLis123 hi thank you for your thoughts time and sympathy. It has been really tough to be honest. But it gets better with time. Im really grateful to you and other people here in 7cups. This is actually not my only post here in 7cups. And in each thread people are so understanding. Even if i dont know you, it makes such a huge difference being able to speak out feelings and know that somebody listened and i was heard. Sometimes it is complicated to talk about things to people who know me and it could feel too burdensome. Take care and thank you for your thoughts/opinions/advice. 🤗

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KatLis123 November 25th, 2020

@peacefulReeds7160

I am really glad you see it that way, that you are feeling supported on 7cups.smiley It was also my honour to be here for you, and will be in case you need me. Thank you for sharing once again. You too take care heart

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