Looking for hope
Has anyone ever gotten back with an ex months, possibly even years later and your relationship was better the second time around?
Is it pathetic to never give up on a former relationship, or is it romantic? I am the one who ruined things, but now I see things differently. I see what went wrong, and how I can be a better partner. I appreciate him more, and have a different perspective. I don't know if he will ever come back to me. We are still civil. I'm just trying to give him space. Wondering if I should still text on Christmas and his bday, hoping someday he will give me another chance.
@Brooke91
So sorry to hear that you two are not together. However, I really appreciate the fact that you want to be a better partner. I don't think there's anything pathetic about it. If everyone learned from their experiences like you did, the world would be such a better place. However, if things went wrong then it's natural for him to want some space.How do you think you can win his trust again? How long are you willing to wait?
@EnchantingMe The only way I can let him know he can trust me is by continuing to try to better myself and if he gives me a chance to show him someday. I can wait forever unless i meet someone someday who I happen to love more and it works out. When I love someone, I always love them. My first love I waited 6 years for. I dated other people in the meantime, but I never gave up hope. I was young, so I was too afraid to tell him I loved him more than just a friend. After 6 years of friendship and him having moved away, we finally saw eachother again and he kissed me. That relationship ended a couple of years ago, then I met this other guy. But now my first love wants to try again lol. We are just emailing for now...I told him ive fallen in love with someone new since we've been apart. I love them both, but my last bf was a better match for me. We'll see what happens.
@Brooke91
It's a good thing that you want to work on yourself. I hope he sees this someday. And if he doesn't, then I hope you find someone whom you love more..
@EnchantingMe thank you <3
You'll find hope by not losing yourself to hopelessness.
We get stronger and stronger by going through hard times.
@Brooke91
Yes, I have! And after the breakup, it brought us closer and to a healthier relationship than before. I think that it is definitely possible to get back together but it does depend on your circumstances and you and your ex. However, I do think it's important to be realistic and focus on yourself during this time rather than hoping to get back together. That way, if it does happen, you are in a better place. I hope everything goes well.
@Brooke91, Hello there. Umm i tried getting back with one of my ex once but the relationship just gotten worse then it was before we broke up :( . Anyways everyone is different and their experience are too. :)
@Brooke91 I don't have any personal experience to share but I see many friends get back together with their exs. My observation is that their relationship gets better because they have iron out the problem and they love enough to be wiilling to work at it! GOOD LUCK!
@Brooke91
Hi. I know a few people who have divorced and reamarried and thier marriages are better than ever. It can happen. I would imagine it is rare but it does happen.
@ali1112 Thanks!! :)) gives me hope
@Brooke91 am so happy to hear that you're working to make yourself better, and that's how you feel, not for someone <3 , its not pathetic, its romantic in my opinion, and i don't see any problem if you did wish him in his bday or something, its totally fine thing to do, and nice of you too, and i like more the fact that you would wait forever, yet give others chance, if it works out, you're doing great job, and keep it up, you're great person i can see 
i wish you all the best dear
@TheFallenOne14s thank you <3. I realized in the past couple of days that I think we need time a part to appreciate eachother more. Hopefully he texts back when I say, Merry Christmas in a couple of months. If not, that will really hurt, but life goes on! If it's meant to be, it will be. I want to go see a psychic soon. I know not everyone believes in that, but I've had several readings and most things they predict and say are accurate. Always makes me feel better when I go
@Brooke91 if that's what you think its the best for you then i encourage you to do <3 , the important thing is to remain comfortable with it <3
