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Dancersoul March 16th, 2018

The long-distance relationship that I had for about 7 months 8 months came to a close because I feel the person can't be trusted travels too much and is too close to his ex-wife it makes me very uncomfortable that I'm the one waiting and then when he's in town I'm happy it's just not healthy to be that way even now that we've trying to be friends quote it's hard for me he went away again on business and it was hard then I think actually the only thing I've learned in this is that I love the attention and being with someone thatliked the same things I do that appreciates Cultural Arts and things like I do

I have trouble meeting people that I connect with and it makes me sad that I'm back at square one again I'm miss him now that he out of the country and he isn't what I need

I need someone that will appreciate me and will love me

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freshLight64 March 16th, 2018

@Dancersoul

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

The long-distance relationship that I had for about 7 months 8 months came to a close because I feel the person can't be trusted travels too much (I don't know the entire situation, I could be wrong with what i'll say here, but I"m noticing that you probably didn't feel like a priority and were often neglected during his travels. There's a chance he was more available and present, but as time went on it he started doing it less) and is too close to his ex-wife it makes me very uncomfortable (This kinda tells me you saw her as threat, and afraid you could lose him or anxiety) that I'm the one waiting (This probably make you feel a lot of thoughts at once) and then when he's in town I'm happy (A lot of people can't handle long distance relationship, because at times it might feel too much not having the person next to you) it's just not healthy to be that way even now that we've trying to be friends quote it's hard for me (It's understandable when you have feelings for him) he went away again on business (This probably triggered your anxiety and afraid he might abandon you, so it made you have tons of thoughts at once) and it was hard then I think actually the only thing I've learned in this is that I love the attention and being with someone thatliked the same things I do that appreciates Cultural Arts and things like I do

I have trouble meeting people that I connect with and it makes me sad that I'm back at square one again I'm miss him now that he out of the country and he isn't what I need. (It's understandable, you would probably prefer someone who is close to you where you can connect and bond)

I need someone that will appreciate me and will love me

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Dancersoul OP March 25th, 2018

@freshLight64

thanks fresh update

he was def cheating onthe side and we decided to stay friends because we have so much in common

Even he said it was silly to think he could have a gf I can tel he had troublr juggling the others.

But I enjoy our intellectual conversations and appreciation of the arts so much that I still see him regularly

Friend is a loose term for what we are tho so I have to think on this one

I will miss the attention if we seperated

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