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It's Time To Move On, But How If It Feels Like A Dead End?

SupaMusk August 7th, 2016
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I've met the most perfect woman. I ultimately felt that all the pain and anguish I've experienced in the past has lead me to her, and I finally found the one I'd spend the rest of my life with. We worked together, I instantly fell in love when we met 4 years ago. There was attraction between us both, but she was married at the time so we were just friends. Last year she reveals to me that she has been separated for a year, soon after we started dating. I can honestly say I have never felt happiness like I did ever. My life went from black and white to 4K in a flash when I see her. But the divorce weighed heavy on her, and even though we had everything in common there was one thing we didn't share, and that was religion. I told her I was agnostic, and being a Christian was a huge part of her life. I told her I don't have a problem with it, and I even started going to church (on my own) so I can understand faith in Christ even more (ironic because I ended a previous relationship of 3 years because I didn't want to be in the church). We broke up, and still see each other at work. Attraction is still there. We shared a kiss last Friday night, and Saturday morning she reveals her faith is still a deal breaker and she is seeing someone who shares that same values. This is where I'm at, I thoroughly belive there is no other woman on this earth that I could ever love the way I loved this woman. I'm at a loss on where "moving on" will take me, because there is no other place I'd rather be than with her.

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delphin August 8th, 2016
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It really sounds like you had found something incredibly special for the both of you. That is something that you can still cherish, knowing that you loved deeply, knowing that you can feel those feelings.

Nobody knows where "moving on" will take them. It is the great beauty and terrifying part of the future - it is unknown. Just as you had many hardships before finding this woman and probably could not have imagined a time when you'd find her - you're now in a state where it is impossible to picture the future.

It is ok to grieve. It is ok to move on at your own pace.

I sincely hope that you do not lose hope of finding love in your life again.

Sending you strength

Khalenyu August 11th, 2016
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@SupaMusk

What you are describing sounds like an incredibly common situation. Unfortunately you cannot change how someone feels about you. It is great that you shared time together and were happy. The only thing we can do in life is learn from these experiences.