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Is therapy a good idea?

artgirl1990 September 12th, 2015

My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago and I'm pretty devastated. We moved in together right away for 6 months. Seems fast but we've known each other for 10 years and have dated for a little before. Now that we're over, I feel like it was too fast to move in. I got too comfortable too soon thinking we'd never break up. He broke up with me because he wasn't feeling as attracted to me as he should... doesn't this just come from being around someone often and getting comfortable? We've definitely gone past the honeymoon stage of our relationship. He still texts me every day and wanted to know why I never initiated any conversations. I said there are more feelings attached to this for me than just being friends. He said for someone who wanted to save the relationship, it doesn't seem like I'm trying very hard... That comment gave me hope. When he broke up with me, it was as if it were done for good. Is he giving me an opportunity to try a relationship with him again? On top of that, we have a relationship therapy session schedule two weeks from now. When we broke up, he said he'd go to therapy but only for me, not for us. I'm wondering that's changed for him. I'm wondering what I should do. There are too many things I'm thinking of and I think I'm being too hopeful.

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placidScarf9369 September 12th, 2015

Hi. Going to therapy will be useful. It's different than talking to friends as you have an impartial observer. If you don't go you'll only continue to wonder what he's thinking or really means. Over thinking is so bad for you because we never know if we've reached the right conclusion. Go to the session with an open mind and see where it goes. Good luck with it all.

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artgirl1990 OP September 13th, 2015

thank you for your reply! i agree. i have been over thinking like crazy and it's eating me up. i'm bummed we have to wait two weeks for our appointment but i'm hoping my ex comes with an open mind too. if he chooses not to, i will have to accept that getting back together is not going to happen.

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dapperGlobe1687 September 13th, 2015

There is a saying goes "follow your heart, for it will lead you to happiness and to follow your mind will lead you to the reality of life". Our hearts know what we desires and our minds know what is right and wrong. Only the heart which is weak upon dealing love circumstances yet it is which who will give unexplainable happiness in your life. If there is that person that will tell you on what to do, that is YOU. YOU are the one who is with him for 10 years, only you could tell on what would be the next step, Is it to let go and move on or to go with flow and continue.

Just believe in every decision that you will have. I know everything happens because of God's will.