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I literally can't get my ex off my mind

convivialScarf33 May 19th, 2015

I broke up with my ex a well and ahalf ago and it's soevident westill really care for each other. I had a problem the other day and he waswillinto let me vent, he said he would always be there for me and he doesn't likeothers to worry about him but little does he know I'll always care for him. I still love him. He thinks he lost hischance with me but he didn't if only he would workharder in our relationship and fix what he had done wrong I would take him back in a heart beat. I miss him butI'm not going to beg him to get backtogethercause he doesn't want to getback together... I feel weare both secretly stuck. And I don't know what to do If I should do anything at all😔

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bestSquare94 May 19th, 2015

I think u both should set your ego aside and talk abt it. Maybe u both secretly love each other and want to spend time. Just give it a shot if u think it will make both of u happy. If its just u who wants to start the relation with him den try to forget him and date someone else. U ll get over him soon :)

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Lexilove2001 May 20th, 2015

Hey please feel free to dm whenever you need me. I can really relate to this and I'd like to give you some advice privately

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convivialScarf33 OP May 26th, 2015

Thank you. I actually don't know howto just message on this site...still trying to figure it out. But ifyou are still willing i would like to hear your advice.mail

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inventiveTalker5098 May 19th, 2015

I really liked this guy we were friend for a while and flirted a bit. All of a sudden he's egnoring my for the past 2 months. I am extremely hurt by this. I have sent numours messages and no reply. He sent one message sat nite saying 'maybe give me ur number and il ring u some time be easier than mailing me'! I took it as a fob off. I mailed him since asking what's wrong and nothing again. What do I do??

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4everOptimistic May 20th, 2015

Try to move on by meeting new people... I know it's easier said than done but you can only reach out so long before you just have to move on.

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4everOptimistic May 19th, 2015

In 2006 I met the perfect man for me. He was funny, smart, handsome, and had could take care of his self. We were able to talk about ANYTHING with no fear and no judgment. I've never been more comfortable around anyone ever. We lived together and were the best family unit. My daughter loved him. Everything was, dare I say, perfect. Don't get me wrong we were a normal couple with normal arguments. Well in August of 2010 I received a call from CPS with accusations of my man touching my, then 8yr old, daughter. As you can imagine I cried... A lot. Of course I left him even though I had so many doubts about the accusations, I had to do what was best for my daughter.

Charges were filed and he ended up taking a plea deal. This helped concrete his guilt in my head. I moved out of state because we were both very well know where we were and I couldn't handle the looks of pity anymore. Almost 5 years later I still can't let go... And the worst part is that it's the relationship I miss. How did something so good go so bad?!?!? I'm in a relationship now and I'm generally happy but it's not what my ex and I had. And I find myself just going through the motions of a relationship. I miss the life I had and feel like I'm either poisoning the new relationship with old expectations or the old keeps coming back to haunt me because I know I'm in a relationship that doesn't make me happy. I just want to stop crying, hurting, and generally being numb.

AshleyLawrence May 19th, 2015

Breakups are hard, but keep up the good work :)

4everOptimistic May 20th, 2015

I'm no expert but if you two are in love then you should be able to say literally anything to each other. So lay it all out there. You don't have to beg but tell him how you feel and what you think is holding you two back. Just be prepared for the worst and just maybe you'll be surprised.

KittyKat69 May 20th, 2015

I feel the same way but I am the one that ruined the relationship with my drinking and insecurities. I have a history of falling backwards in stressful, fearful times. Iam resuming my councilingand detoxingnow but now Im homeless since he kicked me out and I am on disability so I do not have an income that I can live on but I need Social Security for medical coverage. I can say so much more but I hurt from hurting him bc he is a really great person.

4everOptimistic May 20th, 2015

I'm no expert but if you two are in love then you should be able to say literally anything to each other. So lay it all out there. You don't have to beg but tell him how you feel and what you think is holding you two back. Just be prepared for the worst and just maybe you'll be surprised.

cookiemonster134 May 20th, 2015

I have a ex and I can't get him out of my mind but I have a boyfriend and he's kind of a jerk buy I like him he does cute little half smiles and brown eyes he just looks at me and it melts me inside but he is just a jerk tells me to buy him stuff and calls me a slut etc

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bestSquare94 May 20th, 2015

Just leave him and move on.

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kutiekat May 20th, 2015

Just tell him

StarButterfly May 20th, 2015

Please tell him and be honest about your feelings! I've only been with my boyfriend for as long as I have because I've been honest. We've been through similar situations and it's so important to never hide your feelings. You'll regret it later, you really will, don't let it remain unsaid, you're feeling that way for a reason.

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lavenderStrings6538 May 20th, 2015

I've lost my girlfriend of 12 years by not talking enough and just coasting along. Always chat it's the most important thing. I wish I had

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StarButterfly May 20th, 2015

I wish my boyfriend understood that, he pushes me away and doesn't talk about himself when he's upset. It makes it so hard, it's killing me right now because I miss him terribly but he just avoids me when his mood is this bad. I wish everyone knew how important talking about feelings is. It affects the ones you care about just as much as yourself.

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lavenderStrings6538 May 20th, 2015

I never talked either and really regret it. I needed to be pushed into talking. I wanted to just felt I was being soft or she wouldn't understand. If your relationship is worth it push them a bit to talk. I found it easier over texting because I could think about what I wanted to say not mumble through my words. Talking really brings people together.

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