INSTANT BREAKUP RELIEF
Breakups can be hard, especially when the longing for your significant other is so painful. Your mind races, you heart pounds, stress hormones levels are up, and your life is only focused on one thing, your ex!
Don't you wish that there is a way to get instant relief from this torment and torture? You've seen therapists, talked to friends, taken medications, and yet nothing seems to help. What if there was clarity in understanding how to feel instant relief, that therapists can't give, friends and family seem to not know, and medications seem to only mask the root of the cause? Would you want that?
Knowledge is power, and I'm going to tell you one thing that will arm you in your arsenal against the good fleeting fight of this anxiety. The secret is that what you're feeling has everything to do with biochemistry. Namely pheromones. That feeling you're feeling is simply pheromone withdraw, and like a detox off any drug you've been getting a consistent fix with, pheromone withdraw isn't any different. You're just not getting your "fix" anymore, and have been suddenly cut off cold turkey from your partner's pheromones.
So now, the body's reaction is to adjust to the sudden cut off from these pheromones. I don't have to tell you what that reaction is, because if you're reading this now, you already know what you're feeling on such a profound level. Like any drug detox, it feels awful!
People give off pheromones on a consistent basis. But some times the pheromone levels are given off at a massive level as compared to other times when it's just a natural, minimal level. And all living creatures are designed to pick up on pheromones. It helps us make life decisions for survival. And the biggest natural life survival mechanism is the survival of passing on our genes to the next generation.
We as human beings have pheromone receptors in our nasal cavities. This is where we pick up pheromones form other people and living creatures. Why you choose a cat as a pet instead of a dog - all has to do with pheromones a cat gives off as compared to what a dog gives off. Same holds true with selecting a relationship partner. Our receptors pick up wanted and unwanted pheromones from potential mating partners. This is why certain people are attracted by a certain type of person, and repulsed by another. This is called natural selection.
Anyway, to get to the point, your receptors are still receiving left over pheromone traces that your partner left behind. And they can be triggered by all the senses; sight, sound, taste, and especially SMELL. Anytime you look at a picture iof your ex, your receptors are reactivated to their pheromones. But since those pheromones are no longer available, your body goes into panic mode.
This is why relationship experts suggest to get rid of triggers of your ex. Throw out pictures, wash all your laundry, clean your house really well, clean your car really well - basically disinfect the pheromones that are still hanging around. That way, you'll be less triggered by your exes pheromone traces.
VERY HELPFUL TIP - COFFEE GROUNDS
What? Coffee grounds? Seriously?! Yes, seriously! Coffee grounds have a disinfecting effect of cleaning your receptors from pheromone traces still left over by your ex. Professional "sniffers" use this method for clearing out smells and traces of anything else that would get in the way of sniffing a new wine, champagne, food, beverage, etc. The same hold true with the receptors in your nasal passages that linger on the pheromones your ex left behind. So sniff coffee grounds to temporarily relive your receptors of your exes pheromone traces.
WORKING OUT WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX - MIRACLE CURE
People give off a massive amount of pheromones when working out in a gym, or any other strenuous activity. If you want to rid your receptors of your exes pheromone traces once and for all, go to a gym, or a yoga class, or anything where there will be a massive amount of pheromones given off, BY THE OPPOSITE SEX.
If you're a man, go to a gym where there are a lot of women. If you're a woman, go to a gym where there are a lot of men. And breathe in deep through your nose when in this atmosphere. Don't be awkward about it either. Just breathe in deep like you're breathing for a calming exercise. It will help for you to work out and release your pheromones in a strenuous activity as well. That way, your receptors will instantly connect your pheromones mixed with another's of the opposite sex, and replace them with the ones your ex left behind. This is a way of tricking your body to get over your ex in an hour or less!
FINAL THOUGHT
Love doesn't give you feelings of grief, anxiety, loss, depression, or heebie jeebies. Love is a memory of warmth and fondness toward someone. So if you're feeling awful feelings from your breakup, know that it's simply biochemistry. And once you rid yourself of the pheromones your ex left behind, you can look back in warm and fond memories of them, without the awful detox feelings.
I hope you enjoyed this read and it brought you relief and comfort. Please leave me a comment and let me know how this worked for you. I always enjoy helping others feel at ease and comfort. Life doesn't have to be difficult to understand. When you have the right knowledge, life can be so much easier to live and love.
-Peace!
Very interesting!
But what about online relationships? ...oh wait, he sent me a letter with his perfume on it. I never had a chance to send him anything...maybe that's why it's so easy for him to move on from me.
Very interesting. Firm believer in pheromones as a basis for attraction. Never thought of it this way, as withdrawal. Wow.
So he’s got another source of pheromone that he got over me before the breakup.
I see what you're getting at. But, what if, like me, you have to have regular contact with that ex. I have to have face to face contact with my ex husband several times a month when we exchange our son back and forth. I'm literally in his presence talking to him, standing close to him. I even hug him every so often bc I literally just want to feel him in my arms again. Then hes gone and I'm left reliving the pain of losing him all over again. Until the next time, then the cycle starts over. I dont know what im hoping for here but just wanted to express those feelings somewhere.
@kindCircle3085- sending you a big hug. It really must be hard to be around an ex because of shared child support. I hear you loud and clear. This issue has to have been explored and helpful suggestions offered in many places. Hope you can find some answers and strategies to cope with this cycle.
that sucks I know the feeling of going through it again I only had the mischance of doing it two times and it sucked it really fking did. Knowing you have it as a constant thing I can’t imagine how painful that is. Maybe your son can meet him at the door, I understand this isn’t that good since we want to keep our pride or to keep a good image for your son, but it’s time for you to chose yourself and your own well-being. And those emotions you are feeling are there to tell you that you need to get away from this situation/cycle. If your son is young and you have the chance of having a friend, explaining it to them, and asking for a favor for them to “give” your son to your ex isnt weird or craz, rather very understandable.
good luck
@LOABalance- this was one of the more interesting posts I have read about getting over a breakup. Thank you.
@LOABalance this is so good!!
I know everyone seems to be lapping this up, but this sounds like a load of horse manure to me. That's not how the human body works. Scent receptors don't remain bound to their ligands (I.e. the things that we smell) indefinitely. They don't need to be "cleared out" unless you're of course in a situation like sampling perfumes or wine tasting etc where you're trying a lot of different things in rapid succession.
Although I will agree that working out can help. I'm not sure what the exact mechanism is, but exercise can lessen stress and make your brain better able to cope with it. People always say exercise causes the release of endorphins in the brain, but I haven't found any research to back it up (though I didn't search a lot). I did find this article on the APA website which might be interesting. https://www.apa.org/topics/exercise-fitness/stress
So yes, regular exercise is both healthy and can take the edge off emotional pain. But not because you smell other people's sweat. :p
(Source: I've got 2 degrees in molecular biology and currently doing a PhD)
I like how polite you are disagreeing with the post. I think the post is not entirely correct too. From what I read from therapist pages, grief CANNOT be skipped when break up. It’s something we hve to go through as the more we get through it the lessen it will become.
Physiology wise, if the author mentioned about hormones then I can accept a bit. But pheromones, pheromones only triggering chemical receptors at the nasal and sight nor sound cannot trigger that receptor. Sound produce sound wave that detected by ear receptor while sight is by light receptor in eye. Nothing about triggering pheromone receptor. Yet you still be sad looking at pictures from your device that smell free or listening to their voice that supposedly no their pheromone at all.
There are others I like to comment about this article but I’m not sure people be reading. TLDR- pheromone isn’t the reason why we get into grief when break up. Hormones are. Oxytocin which is love hormone, serotonin, adrenaline if you’re in codependency or anxious attacher that always chasing and get the high out of it. It’s true breaking up is like withdrawals from drugs. We are used to all the love hormones we get from our ex. And when they go, the hormone left. You got some fix by reliving the lovely moments. Your body crave for more, so you try to seek them back. Yes physiologically, it’s hormones play
source- I have degree in medical background and I love physiology
@Linognathus i don't even think it can be fully explained by hormones. Since there are other ways to get hits of those hormones that don't really make it hurt less. Like exercise. Yes, it can relieve the stress of it, but the grief is still there. I think the reality is, we just don't really know enough about how our brains work.
Oh yes. The hormones are physiological. There’s psychological, spiritual, cultural, and also emotional play that also involve in break ups that can’t be explained by theories or facts. Because the OP focused on pheromones which are physiologic stuff so I highlight the physiology stuff only. Of course griefs are more than just hormonal
play. But surely it’s not pheromones.