How do I improve my communication?
I had a relationship of a year go down the drain as of yesterday, because of my past trauma and experiences I've lacked communication on how I felt about things ongoing in our relationship. HE broke up with me because he felt like it was hopeless to keep trying to get me to talk on how I felt and I was hurting him in the process. So he broke up with me. And I've never felt so hurt before. I begged and begged for a chance but he's letting me go for my sake, for me to learn how to improve. I just wish I wasn't so much trouble and there wasn't a war in my mind everything I tried speaking about how I felt. I just wanna stop hurting
I completely understand this ☹️ pretty much the reason me & my wife of 15 years separated in January, constant battle with your own head, I have severe anxiety & inadequacy issues currently because of it all, so sorry to hear this, it’s really hard sometimes
@PeacfulLake6506
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It sounds like you've been struggling with communication in your relationship due to past trauma and experiences, and that's completely understandable. Here are some steps you can take to work on improving your communication skills and start healing:
Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on your past experiences and how they might be impacting your ability to communicate openly. Understand that it's okay to have challenges and that healing takes time.
Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your past trauma and develop healthier communication strategies. They can provide you with tools and techniques to express your feelings more effectively.
Practice Active Listening: Communication is a two-way street. Practice active listening by focusing on what the other person is saying without interrupting or planning your response. Show empathy and understanding.
Use "I" Statements: When discussing your feelings or concerns, use "I" statements to express how you feel without placing blame. For example, say "I feel hurt when..." instead of "You always make me feel..."
Be Open and Honest: Share your thoughts and feelings openly with others, including your partner. It may be uncomfortable at first, but being honest about your emotions is crucial for building trust and understanding.
Take Responsibility: Acknowledge your role in the communication breakdown and take responsibility for your actions. Apologize sincerely if you've hurt someone with your communication struggles.
Practice Patience: Improving communication skills takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself as you work on these skills and celebrate small victories along the way.
Remember, it's never too late to work on yourself and improve your communication skills. Use this time to focus on self-growth and healing, and eventually, you'll find yourself better equipped to build healthy relationships in the future. Take care of yourself during this challenging time🤗